Am I Being Naive And Stupid?

i met a man online and i traveled twice to meet him. he is very sweet, very hot and he seems to be very trustful.i have all his family phone number and we talked very often. i love his mother ans she is a blessing heart. he is a christian and he goes to church weekly.
so, where is the catch? i wanna know!
he’s from africa and he lived in vietnam and now he is back to his country.he had many online affairs and when i found all this out and i talked to him, he promised to stop but he didn’t. i got him like 3 times more.btw, all from sites like paggi, tagged and bebo.
so, he gave me his password and i’m sure he has no other email. he comes online once a day for 1 hour. he has no connection at home.
he tattoo my name oh his arm, he talked about me with his father, he always says he loves me deeply and that i’m the woman of his life.
yesterday i asked a friend of us if my man had dated a girl when he was in vietnam. i asked directly by her name. our friend got embarrassing, saying he couldn’t say anything but i forced him and he said that my sweet man dated this girl “as long as he lived in vietnam”. i call my sweet man and he denied it completely saying they met, they went out about 4 times but just as friends and that he never had slept, kissed or dated her.
he is a very hot man, a writer, college degree and he swears on his mother that he loves and respect very much that he never had anything to her or any other girl in vietnam. he owns his company and everybody in his company knows about me.
please help me out. i’m so confused.
do i trust this man or not?

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8 Responses to “Am I Being Naive And Stupid?”


granniel September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

Oh my dear woman. Just by asking the question, “do I trust this man or not?” is your answer. If you have to ask then that tells me that you do not. It is very difficult for a relationship to grow in an atmosphere of distrust. You will always be asking yourself if you believe him or not.
It is so hard when you are getting mixed messages like what you describe. We as women want so desperately to believe our man that sometimes we wear rose colored glasses and suppress those warning signs that our body tries to bring to our attention. If there is one thing that life has taught me is to listen to my body’s reactions. Follow my heart not my head. Hot body, great family, sweet talking and financially secure does not mean anything in the long term.
But I also wonder if it is his past or his present that has got you questioning. If it was in the past then let it lay there. I would feel funny though if he is lieing about his past relationships. For what purpose would a person do that?

kotikod1 September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

Here’s number 1, if he already lied to you once, he will do it again
you are probably one of his booty calls
save yourself the pain move on and to think he only has one e-mail address makes you really naive….but, you can redem yourself by dumping him, save yourself from being stupid.

WP Robot Wordpress Plugin September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

that what happens when you start doing online dating with a hot *** of a guy. hes simply a player and hes not going to stop. i don’t think you should trust him

Kate C September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

He’s lying to you. Ditch him and move on.

PapasChi September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

Well, your being naive and stupid.

b September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

online affairs! hahahahahahaha

Pull Along Truck September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

Yeah hes a player dont get into it .. DOnt do the whole datin online thing either

OMGIGotL September 15th, 2009 at 8:14 pm

Ehhh no your being stupid you should of told him if he had a girlfriend but you should of said that in the beginning to late anyway so sorry just leave him alone and get a realife with a real man that you can actually date and touch! You need a real relationship so i suggest you to go out there! And get a Mr. Sweet guy!



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