I’m Bi. Male. 25 yrs old. I have always suspected. I have 2 ex-girlfriends. And for the past 5 weeks (or weekends since thats when we meet) I have been dating a guy. I found him online (gay.com).I like him. He’s Nice. Intelluctual. Takes me out everytime. And yes He is Handsome inspite of his age and energitic.
Thing is he keeps saying that He is falling for me and never planned that.That he is in love with me but that I can get better younger guys etc. And also, 2-3 guys have been approaching him for sex(young guys-25 and above. Its true). But that this thing we have can’t last. that I will find someone else and thats inevitable and that he understands when that happens.
My fear is that he may be right. Also he only meets me on weekends at his town house and is too busy to meet me anytime else. For all his talk of understanding, of having a deep connection between us; he keeps giving me the impression that he can have other guys (through his talk). that we should keep ourself free?
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I don’t know your date’s ethics and beliefs about relationships, so I don’t know if he would seriously think about having other guys or if he is just trying to dissuade you or give you an “out”. I would hope he is monogamous, but who knows? You’d have to ask him what he thinks about that.
But I feel a resonance with this question. I’m nearly twice your age, and I know I would feel tremendously torn to be falling for someone like you, for the simple reason that — if it ended up in a long term relationship — I would not want to burden a young man with my problems and challenges when I got into my 70s or 80s. I mean, consider the possibilities of bad health, possibly home health care, or a nursing home.
On one hand I’d be delirious to have someone your age interested in me. Who doesn’t like youth? And if the guy were mature, I could definitely see a deep connection happening. But I would also have the feeling — like the guy you’re dating — that you might be better served dating someone more your own age. I wouldn’t want a younger guy to feel burdened by my care for, perhaps, many years.
That’s not to say I couldn’t be convinced otherwise, lol. I’m a romantic at heart and in some ways it would be a tempting prospect to have a husband half my age.
On the other hand, his apparent thought of keeping oneself “free” can be alluring on its own as far as opening the door to sex without entangling oneself — or entangling someone else!
Anyway, I really understand the hesitation on his part.
After all, by the time you are no longer in your youth, but are entering middle-age, he will already be in his 80s, and you might well be visiting him at the nursing home.
I would have to think about the situation very carefully.
You need to understand that being in love is basically a (complex) form of sexual infatuation. It doen’t mean that he wants total commitment and his comments would tend to indicate that this is the case. You should not be surprised if you get hurt – he has given you plenty of warning.
wow…if you can handle that then more power to you. If you cant get out ASAP. I think i will stay with people my age though, cant picture myself with someone my dads age or grandpaw for that matter……
It would be considered odd to most people (but then again, a gay couple is already anyway), but you’re an adult and it’s up to u. Keep in mind this guy needs u more than u need him.
Hey im doing the same thing, im going out with a guy thats 62 an im 19.. he wants to sleep with me already but we are soon on tuesday!! an im lovin it!
u should talk to him
I hope this doesnt sound too wierd but some guys have the young/old fettish type thing and would def go for an older man. Some of the ones who are into that were molested by a grandpa type figure? So yes if hes going onto sex websites and advertising as a Young/old, grandpa type thing, there will be men who will go with him.
but yeah if he is into that he def could get some guys who are. 
not saying he is but u know it technically could happen
EDIT: yeah true. SOrry i dont think all who are into that hve been abused, sorry