I’m a sophomore and about a month ago I got dumped by a guy I THOUGHT I was in love with. I was wrong cuz I’m over him now, and we dated almost 9 months. He ignored me half the time. Ever since then, I’ve wanted a bf soooo bad, and now 4 guys like me! I have no idea which one I like best, but there’s one I don’t like.
Guy #1
Alex
He was my first bf, and I dated him a couple times, the longest time being almost 2 months, which isn’t very long. We were on and off a lot. He was clingy, over emotional, dramatic, wanted to marry me, enough said! I don’t wanna go out with him, but I need to tell him that.
Guy #2
Parker
I met him online on Facebook. We clicked on each other on the Are You Interested thing, and then he added me as a friend. We’ve talked and he seems like such a nice guy! I know he’s a Christian, like I am, and that’s very, VERY important to me. He also knows some of my friends. On his profile it says he can sometimes be quiet, and that’s another thing we have in common. My best friend is going to see if I can meet him soon before I choose which guy to go out with, which will hopefully be this weekend at the latest, especially since school ends next week. He doesn’t go to the same school as me.
Guy #3
Tyler
I’ve known him since Freshman year, when he was in my science class. Last year he was kind of obnoxious and got in trouble a lot. A ton of people don’t like him, but this year he’s been trying very hard to be liked, and I can see how much he wants to be liked. He asked me out today, and he was definetely nervous. I said I’d think about it (cuz I had already been talking to Parker).
Guy #4
Grayson
I don’t know much about Grayson, but I invited him to my bonfire on Saturday, and he was there. He likes video games and he’s a really nice guy. I think he might be a little shy, like I am. Only bad thing is my dad got a little too friendly with him, which is kinda….weird. So if I chose him, I guess I’d have competition? But at least I know my dad likes him. My friend told me today that he wants to ask me out but is really nervous. He’s in her last class.
So I have a huge problem! My dad keeps pressuring me to choose Grayson, but that’s only cuz my dad got so buddy-buddy with him! He hasn’t even met the other 2 I like! And when I told him about Parker, he said “He’s probably a druggist”! Okay, Parker knows some of my friends! I even asked them! He lives 3 blocks from my best friend’s bf! It makes me so mad that my dad assumes the worst in people he hasn’t even met!
Anyway, which guy do you think is best and why? I NEED LOTS OF OPINIONS!!!
There is a girl/young woman who goes to my church back home. Mind you, she is 6 years older than me (she’s 24 and I’m 18). I randomly started talking to her online one day and we both thought the other person was really cool. So we talked more and more, and eventually when summer came, we said hey, let’s hang out. So we hung out whenever she wasn’t working. I started thinking to myself, man, I wish she was my age, because she’s a really cool girl.
One day though, after going to the pool with her, we came back to her parent’s house, and things led to sex. So, I lost my virginity to her. She had told me online before when we were discussing our problems, that once she got to college she started making mistakes sexually. So.. i felt bad for just adding on to her list of mistakes. I felt horrible for having sex too though.
Anywayy.. after sex, as would be expected, I fell for her. HARD. I started considering her as a girlfriend, and wanted to date her pretty badly. Only one problem. I knew she was 6 years older than me, and plus, she goes to a different college than me.
I talked to a really cool pastor here in my college town and he told me that sex ties an invisible string around two people’s hearts, and that the connection I share with Lillian (the girl’s name, she has a gorgeous name too) is an unhealthy one. He suggested that we take a season off from each other. Not communicating, and getting our hearts in the right place and our minds cleared.
See, I completely agree with him, and I want to do this, but it’s almost impossible for me to. He’s right it is an unhealthy connection. My heart tells me that I love her, but my mind says I’m retarded. She goes to clubs, wears clothes that can sexually attract guys, and is very pretty which then leads to her getting hit on by a lot of guys. It’s not something I usually look for in a girl, and some of it is a turn off.
She’s Christian and wants to do things that are right, but she is kind of naive, and it hurts me. Because she’s naive, and I care for her, it really hurts me that I can’t be with her to watch out for her, and protect her from things she may not see. It seems like she has trouble seeing the wrong in what is around her. idk. She’s naive, and it makes me care for her even when I try not to.
What the heck do I do? I’m sitting here hurting day after day. I hung out with her all day this past labor day weekend, we both came home from college to visit. We kissed, hugged each other, and I cried, she teared up a little, but I think it’s because I was crying. She told me a while ago me that she wishes she had a guy like me, and that she would wait even longer than she has been waiting for someone like me. She’s a sweet, caring, lovely girl, who has an innocent heart, she really does. But she’s just not so aware of the things she’s doing. I wish I could not like her or stop thinking about her, but I absolutely, positively can’t.
It’s gotten to the point that when I try to hang out with girls in college, I feel uncomfortable, because I feel that I’m somewhat committed to Lillian? wtf, right?
Another thing, she’s about to graduate, and head off into the world and find a job. She wants to maybe move to LA and find a job. I don’t know.. there are just so many things that should convince me to move on.. but I just can’t. I mean.. seriously.. nothing will work out, right? She used to call me almost every night and I loved hearing her voice, but we’re trying this no communication thing out and it’s killing me, and it isn’t working.
Please help me.. I have a really soft heart and have no clue what to do.
I’m a sophomore and about a month ago I got dumped by a guy I THOUGHT I was in love with. I was wrong cuz I’m over him now, and we dated almost 9 months. He ignored me half the time. Ever since then, I’ve wanted a bf soooo bad, and now 4 guys like me! I have no idea which one I like best, but there’s one I don’t like.
Guy #1
Alex
He was my first bf, and I dated him a couple times, the longest time being almost 2 months, which isn’t very long. We were on and off a lot. He was clingy, over emotional, dramatic, wanted to marry me, enough said! I don’t wanna go out with him, but I need to tell him that.
Guy #2
Parker
I met him online on Facebook. We clicked on each other on the Are You Interested thing, and then he added me as a friend. We’ve talked and he seems like such a nice guy! I know he’s a Christian, like I am, and that’s very, VERY important to me. He also knows some of my friends. On his profile it says he can sometimes be quiet, and that’s another thing we have in common. My best friend is going to see if I can meet him soon before I choose which guy to go out with, which will hopefully be this weekend at the latest, especially since school ends next week. He doesn’t go to the same school as me.
Guy #3
Tyler
I’ve known him since Freshman year, when he was in my science class. Last year he was kind of obnoxious and got in trouble a lot. A ton of people don’t like him, but this year he’s been trying very hard to be liked, and I can see how much he wants to be liked. He asked me out today, and he was definetely nervous. I said I’d think about it (cuz I had already been talking to Parker).
Guy #4
Grayson
I don’t know much about Grayson, but I invited him to my bonfire on Saturday, and he was there. He likes video games and he’s a really nice guy. I think he might be a little shy, like I am. Only bad thing is my dad got a little too friendly with him, which is kinda….weird. So if I chose him, I guess I’d have competition? But at least I know my dad likes him. My friend told me today that he wants to ask me out but is really nervous. He’s in her last class.
So I have a huge problem! My dad keeps pressuring me to choose Grayson, but that’s only cuz my dad got so buddy-buddy with him! He hasn’t even met the other 2 I like! And when I told him about Parker, he said “He’s probably a druggist”! Okay, Parker knows some of my friends! I even asked them! He lives 3 blocks from my best friend’s bf! It makes me so mad that my dad assumes the worst in people he hasn’t even met!
Anyway, which guy do you think is best and why? I NEED LOTS OF OPINIONS!!!
There is a girl/young woman who goes to my church back home. Mind you, she is 6 years older than me (she’s 24 and I’m 18). I randomly started talking to her online one day and we both thought the other person was really cool. So we talked more and more, and eventually when summer came, we said hey, let’s hang out. So we hung out whenever she wasn’t working. I started thinking to myself, man, I wish she was my age, because she’s a really cool girl.
One day though, after going to the pool with her, we came back to her parent’s house, and things led to sex. So, I lost my virginity to her. She had told me online before when we were discussing our problems, that once she got to college she started making mistakes sexually. So.. i felt bad for just adding on to her list of mistakes. I felt horrible for having sex too though.
Anywayy.. after sex, as would be expected, I fell for her. HARD. I started considering her as a girlfriend, and wanted to date her pretty badly. Only one problem. I knew she was 6 years older than me, and plus, she goes to a different college than me.
I talked to a really cool pastor here in my college town and he told me that sex ties an invisible string around two people’s hearts, and that the connection I share with Lillian (the girl’s name, she has a gorgeous name too) is an unhealthy one. He suggested that we take a season off from each other. Not communicating, and getting our hearts in the right place and our minds cleared.
See, I completely agree with him, and I want to do this, but it’s almost impossible for me to. He’s right it is an unhealthy connection. My heart tells me that I love her, but my mind says I’m retarded. She goes to clubs, wears clothes that can sexually attract guys, and is very pretty which then leads to her getting hit on by a lot of guys. It’s not something I usually look for in a girl, and some of it is a turn off.
She’s Christian and wants to do things that are right, but she is kind of naive, and it hurts me. Because she’s naive, and I care for her, it really hurts me that I can’t be with her to watch out for her, and protect her from things she may not see. It seems like she has trouble seeing the wrong in what is around her. idk. She’s naive, and it makes me care for her even when I try not to.
What the heck do I do? I’m sitting here hurting day after day. I hung out with her all day this past labor day weekend, we both came home from college to visit. We kissed, hugged each other, and I cried, she teared up a little, but I think it’s because I was crying. She told me a while ago me that she wishes she had a guy like me, and that she would wait even longer than she has been waiting for someone like me. She’s a sweet, caring, lovely girl, who has an innocent heart, she really does. But she’s just not so aware of the things she’s doing. I wish I could not like her or stop thinking about her, but I absolutely, positively can’t.
It’s gotten to the point that when I try to hang out with girls in college, I feel uncomfortable, because I feel that I’m somewhat committed to Lillian? wtf, right?
Another thing, she’s about to graduate, and head off into the world and find a job. She wants to maybe move to LA and find a job. I don’t know.. there are just so many things that should convince me to move on.. but I just can’t. I mean.. seriously.. nothing will work out, right? She used to call me almost every night and I loved hearing her voice, but we’re trying this no communication thing out and it’s killing me, and it isn’t working.
Please help me.. I have a really soft heart and have no clue what to do.
Okay, so Im going to college and some of the people going to my college group chat with webcams, kind of like ichat and skype. Well, I’m a guy and met this dude on there going to my college. I’m kind of bi-curious to bi, and I find this guy attractive and cool. Here are some facts about him:
The college were going to is a christian college btw.
-He likes to skate
- Plays videogames, mostly Call of Duty 4
- Had ADHD, not severe, but mild
- didnt have much friends and was nerdy in middle school to high school
- strong christian who goes on missions trips
Stuff he has said to me:
- In a group chat with 2 other girls, i was joking around and said that they werent my friends as a joke, and he said “But I love you..” he was joking i think
- In the same chat, i was explaining how my guy friend invited me to stay over his house a couple days before college begins because im flying there early, and he says “Well, you can stay at my house forever” I think he was kidding on the first two
- We chatted online for 4 hours at one point, and we were talking about what qualities we look for i na girlfriend, and i said how i have a hard time finding girlfriends because theyre not as perfect as me. I was being sarcastic, and he says”Well, if you were a girl……” implying if i was girl hed date me, but i said “huh”, and he said “haha jk”
- And one time in the chat i was afk, and i came back and said “Im back, did u miss me?” and he said “Like a fat kid loves cake.” and i said “Thats the sweetest thing any one has ever said to me” as a joke, and he responded with the face “:P”.
Also, no one was on ichat but he invited me for a one on one video chat, which was kind of weird because were both guys.
He has shown the 2 girls and me in the chatroom himself with his shirt off, and was posing side ways and all that too…
Do u guys think he might havea crush on me, or is bi curious? we talk about girls alot and stuff, i just try to do it to make him jealous, but today wen we talked he was being really passive with me, but i think he was busy playing video games…
Salam,
i have this friend who talks to this girl online, they live in diffrent locations and they haven’t met yet.
my friend is a muslim but his gf/future wife is not. she’s a christian.
but she is a nice girl since everything that my friend has told her has been accepted by her.
for example he said when they meet they can’t huge or kiss or even touch eachother.
she said she respects that. although i would be sure that she would want to kiss him and hug him.
but she said it’s going to be really hard not to.
my friend said there is one way, if they get married, they can kiss and huge.
so the girl has accepted to marry him before meeting him (i think they want to do it over the phone or something).
so since the girl is a christian, my firend can marry her, and they’ve planed everything out.
they want to get married, and they’ve talked about it, although they’ve never dated eachother, so it’s been halal for them so far (AlhamduliAllah).
but the thing is when they talk, they tell each things like “i wana kiss you,” or things like that.
so is it haram to only type and say it to eachother, although they haven’t met, but they will probebly get married?
my friend is a good muslim or at least trys to be, and i’m kind of worried about what he’s doing.
is this right? or would you say it’s still haram?
peace.
i met a man online and i traveled twice to meet him. he is very sweet, very hot and he seems to be very trustful.i have all his family phone number and we talked very often. i love his mother ans she is a blessing heart. he is a christian and he goes to church weekly.
so, where is the catch? i wanna know!
he’s from africa and he lived in vietnam and now he is back to his country.he had many online affairs and when i found all this out and i talked to him, he promised to stop but he didn’t. i got him like 3 times more.btw, all from sites like paggi, tagged and bebo.
so, he gave me his password and i’m sure he has no other email. he comes online once a day for 1 hour. he has no connection at home.
he tattoo my name oh his arm, he talked about me with his father, he always says he loves me deeply and that i’m the woman of his life.
yesterday i asked a friend of us if my man had dated a girl when he was in vietnam. i asked directly by her name. our friend got embarrassing, saying he couldn’t say anything but i forced him and he said that my sweet man dated this girl “as long as he lived in vietnam”. i call my sweet man and he denied it completely saying they met, they went out about 4 times but just as friends and that he never had slept, kissed or dated her.
he is a very hot man, a writer, college degree and he swears on his mother that he loves and respect very much that he never had anything to her or any other girl in vietnam. he owns his company and everybody in his company knows about me.
please help me out. i’m so confused.
do i trust this man or not?
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