where do i find her. (excluding online)
its so easy to meet guys. i have no idea
how to find lesbian gal. how can you tell if a
girl is a lesbian? maybe il hit on one.
My guy friend has been sending me txt 2-3 times a week to me overseas mobile and now when I’m in the same country for a holiday, he has been calling me everyday for a month and a half now. He asked me out, but I’m ovrloaded with work from my online company. I told him that I will be free in a month time. Sometimes when he calls me I’m with my clients and when I call him back, he’s with his patients cos he is a GP. So, it’s hard for both of us to develop the relationship. I feel that he likes me more than a friend, but my logic tells me to re-think. However, we went on 2 dinner dates already. The first one, we were tired from work, so didn’t have a maximum enjoyment. The second one he took me to see a stage play, we had food poisoning! Now, he doesn’t call me everyday, but every other day via txt or mobile cos when he calls me I’m with my clients most of the time. When I’m not in touch with him, he will txt or call me first. Now, I’m not sure if he is into me or using me cos he plans to have a clinical attachment in London and he plans to stay at my place. He sometimes acts more than just a friend level, so I’m not sure if all these sweet things are in exchange for future help from me, or he is into me, or he is interested but he may think I’m a lesbian or I send a confusing signal. Help!
Well, here’s the situation… I’m bi and discovered it about three years ago. I have only ever dated guys, and haven’t had a sexual experience with a girl. I really want to, though. The thing is… I don’t really want a relationship with a girl. In my experience they’re just too mean… I don’t mean to generalize, but no matter my reasons, let’s just say I don’t think I want a relationship with a woman. I am actually currently in a relationship with a guy, and we talked about it a lot, and he (reluctantly) gave me permission to experiment with another girl. Let me be clear, I love this guy, and I want to be with him… it’s just, I have dreams and fantasies about other girls, and it makes me sad to think I might never have an experience with one, so I really want to try… Well, he gave me permission, but of course he’s worried… he says he doesn’t want to try with me, like in a threesome, because he’s too self-conscious, and he’s a little worried that I might like sex better with a woman, and not want to be with him anymore… I want to tell him that that won’t happen, but then I worry a little too… what if I really do like it better? Does that make me a lesbian, or is it just my preferences? I mean logically it doesn’t make sense.. there’s not really anything a girl can do for another girl that a guy can’t, so I wouldn’t think that I’d like sex with a girl better than with a guy… but what if I do? So I’m wondering… do most bi girls have a preference? Or do you like them both the same?
Also, I’m wondering how I might even be able to experiment… a few years ago a friend of a friend said she’d come over and show me some stuff… but I was 16 then, and her mom discovered she was at my house and dragged her away before anything could happen. I just don’t see the opportunity for casual sex with a girl coming up again… is it wrong to look online for that kind of stuff? Is there maybe a place I could look that is kinda meant for this.. experimenting kinda stuff? I’m also a little self-conscious, I’m slightly overweight, and I’d want to make sure to get someone who wouldn’t be disgusted by me.. =’( And of course I worry about the people who frequent casual sex sites having STDs… So… does anyone have any ideas as to how I might arrange to… you know, experiment with another girl?
I know this is a really weird question… And let me be clear, I don’t think being bi or gay is just about sex. But as I’ve already said, I don’t think I want a relationship with a girl, and I’m currently in a committed relationship anyway… I just want to try some stuff. I hope I don’t offend anyone…
alright me and this guy have been bffs since we met in second grade, and in 6th we dated for a few months and then i broke up with him, because i really didnt feel a connection. Then i moved away and we lost touch, finally aroundthe summer time last year we met online again (we DO kno eachother in real life) and around november we started going out again, only in january he broke up with me for “family issues” only to find out he was with another girl 3 weeks later. and the second time we went out i still didnt have any “deep” feelings for him, only like a brother. But one day i discovered i had feelings for him and i was gonna call him and tell him and he told me he got married (married at 15! its too young) i have never known him to lie o me so i beleive he is married. and i think im in love with him, but i dont want to ruin a 8 year friendship just because i got feelings for him now, in fact i loved him so much im thinking about going “full lesbian (im bi anyway)”
Alright, so I’m a girl, shes a girl. My friend moved but we talk a lot on the internet. I have a crush on her, and I’m bisexual; but in the closet. I want to be in a lesbian relationship with her<3
Shes confusing me though. When IMing eachother we do that couple thing. “Nooo i love you more”. “Nu-uhh I love yoou more” You know, that? Sometimes she even says some sexual things to me. As your reading this your probably thinking she wants to date me, right? (Oh and she says shes straight if that helps)
I really thought I had a chance with her. Then this boy came along and whenever hes online she always talks about him. She shows me all these messages they send eachother and she said she loves him so much.
She says she loves this boy so much and then she flirts with me! Shes really confusing me. Does she like me or him? I would tell her I like her and that I’m bi, but now I’m too scared because of this boy. When she flirts with me, she makes me feel like she likes me then that freaking guy ruins it.
What do you think about this?
Who do you think she likes?
Do you think me and her have a chance together?
Does she sound bisexual to you?
Should I tell her I’m bisexual and have feelings for her or just tell her I’m bi or should I not say anything?
I’m confused! Thanks for taking the time to read this and I hope I can find the answer.
I know this may sound odd but I have had a couple of experiences lately with my parents which have led me to believe that A:their marriage and sex life is rather dysfunctional and B: that I should stay as far away as is possible from them. Firstly, when I have been speaking to my dad he has stared down at my chest periodically, intermittently but very blatantly and not in a fashion that can be construed as merely “thinking and mind elsewhere” (more wide eyed).
I have been in the kitchen with my Dad when my Mom walks in and I say to her “Oh, where did you get that jumper” and my Dad immediately looks up from what he is doing and by his expression and stare at my mother I apprehend that he is construing the incident in a sexual way as though “pornographic” and “lesbian” was my intention when making this comment..Later I came into the kitchen and my parents were at the dinner table and my Dad was stroking my mothers elbow (He is never affectionate with her and so adding two and two, I came to conclude I was right in my initial impression of the situation)
On a later date, I was in the kitchen with my parents when my Dad said something. I asked my Mom, “What did he just say?” and my Mom said in a sort of jokey way ” Kiss her..haw” ..while my Dad continued to read the paper..There is no other way to understand this situation other then my Mom was trying to turn my Dad on by feeding into his perverted fantasies which in any case shows my mother to lack a conscience. I am not close to my Dad and at the minute I do not speak to him, though I live with him. This really upsets me but my parents if confronted will “deny, deny, deny”…I know this was meant in a sexual way and my initial impression was confirmed when my mother made the “Kiss her” comment and it has stuck in my head and is messing me up quite a bit.
Furthermore, I know my Dad has been spying on my online activity (I don’t know how) as he makes comments which are very private and which he should not know about and which are entirely innapropriate to do to me as an adult woman. I have a BDSM Ageplay fetish and my Dad has started making comments to the effect (and only in the past 2 yrs since I discovered this), for example when collecting me from some place, “Daddy will come and get you so”..PERVERT FREAK!! Ageplay does not imply incest AT ALL….He has never spoken like this but he has now begun to..
When I was a little girl, I also felt I was exposed to things I should not have been. I slept in the same bedroom as my parents for about 11 years from birth and I started becoming aware around 8 or 9 about sex and these things. It made me feel so uncomfortable and worthless to sleep in the same bedroom as my parents as though I was the family dog without any feelings or real inner life. They didn’t consider that that might be traumatic to me to be around them like that. I went through periods I couldn’t sleep and was paranoid about any sexual activity that was happening in their bed. I once saw my Dads erection poking up from the sheets.
I also remember being in the garden when I was 5 or so with my parents and my mom was topless and I was giddy and laughing at her nipples (i had never seen such things before)..
I remember being in the shower with my mother and her placing the shower head down by my vagina and tickling this area with the water which I feel was innapropriate. When I told her one day that I wanted to start washing myself and I was getting older, she stubbornly and thoughtlessly ignored my request and kept washing me and particularly so in my more private areas and I felt violated at the time…
I have another memory of sitting on my Dads lap when I was 8 or 9 and I could feel his erection on the back of my knee. I didn’t know what that was but I could tell there was something very stiff prodding my knee. Nothing went further in these instances but they were scarring to me..
I was molested by my older brother when I was a child who bribed me with a pack of markers to stay quiet and repeatedly told me I was a “rat” when I was a little kid in order to keep me quiet and manipulate me into doing what he wanted me to do..
Can someone please tell me, If any of this was appropriate? It is difficult for me because they behave like normal people with the rest of the world but I feel anger resentment and hurt towards them..They pretend they did nothing wrong..
If he lets me practice driving on his car to get a license to get a job?
I’m VERY, VERY sick of him! I have anxiety & nervous breakdowns EVERY night b/c of him.
To make a long story short, our whole family has had issues even before I was born. I was in a life or death crisis last yr., & he sent me from NY ALL the way to TX, just to use me to pay ALL his bills. I didn’t know he was gonna do that to me, since he never spends time with family members. I didn’t ask to come down here. He URGED me to come down here. I almost died last yr., & he didn’t care. Well, I got tired of him misusing, abusing, & enslaving me, so I got my own place. He got mad b/c I didn’t want him taking care of me. He thinks I’m retarded. But I have my 4-yr. college degree.
We didn’t speak for a while. He had a computer with internet access. When he came to my house & saw me online, he INTENTIONALLY turned off his internet service, just to freeload off of mine. It’s clear that he can’t STAND me & that he hates my guts. He snoops through my private files & webpage history IN FRONT MY FACE! & when I tell him about it, he wants to blame it on my OCD & saying I’m starting my s#it. & he also tries to hack my acct. passwords, & he floods my computer with viruses & trojan horses with those gay sites.
He even told me to my face that he doesn’t give a damn about me & that he wishes I was never born. I tried to talk to him about this, & he got hostile. I was intimidated. He is THAT desperate to throw me off my OWN computer, just so he can try to control it & take over it. He’s a control freak. He wants to try to control everything. He’s been driving for over 20 yrs., & STILL has poor driving skills, & he’s a wreckless driver. Now, when I drive the SPEED limit, he wants to try to tell me to slow down. This was when I had my car yrs. ago. & when I drive 5mph below, he says I’m gonna get a ticket for driving too slow. He does that on purpose, just to try to throw me off the wheel of my OWN car, so HE can be in control & drive. He’s a VERY poor driver.
Now, here, I’m trapped in a racist, small town with no jobs & hardly any transportation. He kept yelling @ me for not moving here. He recently confessed to me that he thinks Dallas is the best place to be b/c that’s where all the gays are. I’m not a lesbian. But he tries to call me a dyke. I can’t FORCE a man to date me. I just stay single & to myself. I have social anxiety.
I HAD a license, but they said that I had to take the driving test process ALL over again since I was a new resident. & damn near every job requires you to have a license & insurance, here. I’m very stressed because I have no way to get a license again. He has me feeling trapped here. I have no money to move.
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Parents Who Make Sexual Comments Or Imply Sex In Interacting With 20 Yr Old Daughter?
I know this may sound odd but I have had a couple of experiences lately with my parents which have led me to believe that A:their marriage and sex life is rather dysfunctional and B: that I should stay as far away as is possible from them. Firstly, when I have been speaking to my dad he has stared down at my chest periodically, intermittently but very blatantly and not in a fashion that can be construed as merely “thinking and mind elsewhere” (more wide eyed).
I have been in the kitchen with my Dad when my Mom walks in and I say to her “Oh, where did you get that jumper” and my Dad immediately looks up from what he is doing and by his expression and stare at my mother I apprehend that he is construing the incident in a sexual way as though “pornographic” and “lesbian” was my intention when making this comment..Later I came into the kitchen and my parents were at the dinner table and my Dad was stroking my mothers elbow (He is never affectionate with her and so adding two and two, I came to conclude I was right in my initial impression of the situation)
On a later date, I was in the kitchen with my parents when my Dad said something. I asked my Mom, “What did he just say?” and my Mom said in a sort of jokey way ” Kiss her..haw” ..while my Dad continued to read the paper..There is no other way to understand this situation other then my Mom was trying to turn my Dad on by feeding into his perverted fantasies which in any case shows my mother to lack a conscience. I am not close to my Dad and at the minute I do not speak to him, though I live with him. This really upsets me but my parents if confronted will “deny, deny, deny”…I know this was meant in a sexual way and my initial impression was confirmed when my mother made the “Kiss her” comment and it has stuck in my head and is messing me up quite a bit.
Furthermore, I know my Dad has been spying on my online activity (I don’t know how) as he makes comments which are very private and which he should not know about and which are entirely innapropriate to do to me as an adult woman. I have a BDSM Ageplay fetish and my Dad has started making comments to the effect (and only in the past 2 yrs since I discovered this), for example when collecting me from some place, “Daddy will come and get you so”..PERVERT FREAK!! Ageplay does not imply incest AT ALL….He has never spoken like this but he has now begun to..
When I was a little girl, I also felt I was exposed to things I should not have been. I slept in the same bedroom as my parents for about 11 years from birth and I started becoming aware around 8 or 9 about sex and these things. It made me feel so uncomfortable and worthless to sleep in the same bedroom as my parents as though I was the family dog without any feelings or real inner life. They didn’t consider that that might be traumatic to me to be around them like that. I went through periods I couldn’t sleep and was paranoid about any sexual activity that was happening in their bed. I once saw my Dads erection poking up from the sheets.
I also remember being in the garden when I was 5 or so with my parents and my mom was topless and I was giddy and laughing at her nipples (i had never seen such things before)..
I remember being in the shower with my mother and her placing the shower head down by my vagina and tickling this area with the water which I feel was innapropriate. When I told her one day that I wanted to start washing myself and I was getting older, she stubbornly and thoughtlessly ignored my request and kept washing me and particularly so in my more private areas and I felt violated at the time…
I have another memory of sitting on my Dads lap when I was 8 or 9 and I could feel his erection on the back of my knee. I didn’t know what that was but I could tell there was something very stiff prodding my knee. Nothing went further in these instances but they were scarring to me..
I was molested by my older brother when I was a child who bribed me with a pack of markers to stay quiet and repeatedly told me I was a “rat” when I was a little kid in order to keep me quiet and manipulate me into doing what he wanted me to do..
Can someone please tell me, If any of this was appropriate? It is difficult for me because they behave like normal people with the rest of the world but I feel anger resentment and hurt towards them..They pretend they did nothing wrong..