My question(s): Have you ever been in a serious relationship with someone you had (originally) met online? What tips would you give for making one work?
My story (Note: You don’t have to read this, its kinda long,lol) : I’m 15, my girlfriend is 13 & 1/2. We’ve been going out since June 3rd 2009. I met her on an online game about 6 months ago. Ever since I met her I’ve been crazy about her. She’s funny, VERY pretty, sweet. And I know she’s not some old pervert – I’ve seen her on webcam before 
. She’s not comfortable with dating guys in real life… She really likes me, and I really like her. But the sad thing is we’ll probably never meet as we’re young and she lives 720 miles away and if we ever do, it will be like WAY in the future! It really depresses me because I love her so much and she’s so beautiful and unique… Although I feel I’m not being fair to her because she’s in public school where she lives and she says she gets asked out by guys alot. She says she tells them no because she loves me. although again. I’m home schooled, and thus I have no real life friends. I would normally never date online like this for obvious reasons but I’ve grown so close to her so fast. She’s anything I could ever dream for. I’m just trying to find a way to better make this relationship work. Something to make us feel closer (in distance). I don’t have a cell phone (strict parents) so I can’t call her. I feel like if I ask her to go on cam I’m bothering her cause she most likely doesn’t want to most of the time … I really trust her, and I really love her. I really want it to work. But IM conversations are getting boring…we’re BOTH running out of things to say! I don’t want to let her go. How can I keep from losing her, I really don’t want us drifting apart/losing interest in eachother because we really have something. She’s my dream girl 
Advice please!
Thx,
Jason
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rojo says: first of all Jason congrats on the relationship. but since you trust her your stepping in the right direction. if you do not know what faith is this relationship of yours will make you know what faith is.
try writing letters. or writing down everything you did that day and tell her about it whenever you talk to her. so it will be like she spent the day with you. you have to be positive about this. do not listen to people when they say ” it wont work. your wasting your time.” they are not the one that is in the relationship with her you are.
you have to believe it will work and think positive. do not let negative thoughts eat up your mind about this long distance relationship. pace your selves. if you two have yahoo messenger they have games like pool and checkers on there. hope that helps.
long distance relationships are not a joke. but one day hopefully an LDR ( long distance relationship) will not be so long distance because the people in them have to meet sometime or another right ?
just hang in there and do not give up no matter what. since you love here as much as you say you do then keep on thinking positive and hoping ’til you two meet.
as far as interest goes . Jason just be yourself and if she does not like that then there is no point of being together. change for no one. people need to accept you for who you are and not try to change you.
good luck J.
to answer your question yes and still am.
How can you run out of things to say from day-to-day when you have a life outside of the internet? There is always something to talk about. Keep in touch with her as often as possible but at the same time keep an active social life to make yourself more interesting. When you get to be an adult perhaps you can travel to see her and decide if it is the real thing. And people do change when they grow older so don’t be surprised if that happens.
My cousin had a penpal in England when she was your age. She said she loved him and was hoping to marry him but it never happened. She married a local man in her early 20′s.
hi, i totally know where your coming from. i never wanted to have an online relationship and it just came out of nowhere when i least expected it. we just talked casually and we had so much in common it developed into an actual relationship. it went on quite awhile and i really felt something for her just as she did for me, i had never even been that serious with a girl in real life let alone online. anyway to make a long story short it turns out all the pictures she showed me of her and certain things she said werent true. what had happened was she really began to tell me the truth once she started to love me pretty much she felt bad i guess. but after that i promised myself i would never do a online relationship again. but yea we got to the same point where you are where it just seemed like we ran out of things to talk about. well thats what happens when you only talk with them online.
my advice, if you can see her in real life jump all over it, what are you waiting for? if not you gotta spice up the conversations more introduce new topics to discuss stuff like that
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