My friend told me she has been feeling like a lesbian, and met a girl online who she wants to meet in person. The girl she met is a lesbian, and has asked her if she is bi or been in a relationship with a girl before, and my friend hasn’t replied to her and wants to get my opinion. She has only been in relationships with men and is afraid she’ll never get to be one with a lesbian if they pre-judge her based on her history. Any thoughts or advice I can pass on to her?
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How Do Lesbians Feel About Dating A Girl Who Hasn’t Been In A Serious Relationship Before Or Is Bi?8 comments to How Do Lesbians Feel About Dating A Girl Who Hasn’t Been In A Serious Relationship Before Or Is Bi? |
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Some lesbians do not want to date a bisexual women for fear of disease and also the concern the woman will return to men.
Some lesbians do not want to date a ‘first timer’ due to her lack of experience, lack of confidence.
Some lesbians don’t mind, maybe they enjoy a ‘challenge’.
The lack of a quick response by your friend to her online friend is proof that she is not an experienced lesbian. Otherwise there would have been no hesitation.
Tell you gf to be honest, to explain that she is really interested in being with another woman and what her intentions are about not being with men again. It is not a good way to start a relationship – any kind of relationship- on falsehoods.
My best to both of you.
It depends on the person because everyone is different (and also the situation can vary on what people’s decision is based on).
Personally I don’t base my decisions on whether the person has had experience before or whether its their first time, I base my decision on whether I like the person in that way and what kind of person they are personally, but as I said everyone is different.
Good Luck!
i dont date bisexuals because of fear that they might leave me for a man or a woman.not only that but alot of times bisexuals are greedy people and want the best of both worlds so they often try to have two-way relationships and that never works….i mean no offense and i hold nothing against bisexuals and im not saying all are like that but as a generality that what i find. and if she hasnt been in a relationship with a girl well you have to get expierience somehow and alot of the people i know who are lesbians or bisexuals actually enjoy the teaching process.
when i first started dating the girl im with now she was bisexual and never been in a serious relationship with a girl. i wasnt worried about her past. If she left me for a guy or anything it just wasnt meant to be. me and her our now happier than ever. your friend should just tell her and see what she says. if she doesnt want to be with her because of it thats the other girl missing out. good luck to your friend
oh wow, this is a tough one, but kind of easy. FOR ME, PERSONALLY, as a lesbian with some experience, i would not take a bi girl or a first timer too seriously, UNLESS they told me that they are not just out for a one time lesbian experience and would be with a woman in a relationship
The way I see it, every person has to start somewhere. Tell her to go for it and be honest about the situation. If she gets blown off, well… Better to find out early and not waste her time with someone who is not compatible. Good luck to her.
*eagerly waits for lesbian responses*
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As long as she was faithful to me while we were together I wouldn’t care what (or who!!!) she did before……