My ex-husband left me a little over three years ago now. After that happened, it took me a good two years before I got my life back in order.
Now I feel great, and look back on my darker days as something in my past, something that I learned a lot of positive lessons from, but would never want to re-live. I have absolutely no contact with my ex or his family and we did not have any kids together, either, thank goodness. I was with him ex-husband a total of 5 years (age 20-25) and now I am 28 and feel totally out of the dating loop.
I’m going to post a personal ad online, but it is very easy to hide behind a computer screen. It’s the actual going on a date thing that has me very nervous. I am confident in the person that I have become, but I tend to be very shy in social settings, preferring to be a part of the actively involved audience, rather than take center stage. Any tips?
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My advice is don’t invite the guy to your house and especially don’t go to his house until you have been dating for quite awhile.
When I rejoined the dating scene, I was surprised at how much I had to fight to protect my virtue. Apparently going to a guy’s house means that you want to have sex. Uh, no….I thought we were going to hang out and watch movies, etc.
Oh yeah…and don’t be disappointed if you have a series of one date wonders initially. You know how to be in a deep commited relationship. You do not know how to be in the early stages of a relationship. It will take you time to learn these skills and you’ll end up scaring off the first few guys because…well, another man hasn’t seen you nekkid since Bill Clinton was president. That’s ok. Eventually, one date will become two….and then after a series of 2 daters, you will meet someone who turns into a bf….and then a husband.
Get a lot of condoms, spermicides, and find a good clinic near by for emergencies(the mourning after pill) Screen people, when you date on line. Watch out for mental patients ect….and what ever you do wait and wait and wait some more before you get married again. That’s what I would do. Dating these days is like walking blindfolded through a mine field-good luck! Watch out for vd.
So… your saying you want to meet someone, right?
It can be hard to get back into dating after such a rough divorce… remain happy, continue to focus on yourself and your needs so you don’t fall back and start dating the same type of guy as your ex.
Ever tried one of those speed dating sessions? I’ve always thought that would take some ease off, because they are all sorts of people there.
Join a group or association the interests you
its ok to get nervous, just take your time getting to know the guy your going to date. get to know him.
Like the fruit cake lady say on Jay Leno ” Keep her clean:”
Just be yourself and show your confidence…you will do great…
I hear you girl.
I say, be prepared to put yourself out there. as far as relationships and men go, you have suffered the worst… so what more could happen.
and don’t be too ready to find mr right immediately. give yourself time, and a few potential guys to feel it out.
also, don’t have sex right away! an orgasm can make you fall in love with anyone. especially if it’s been a while!
there are plenty of idiots out there, and plenty of wonderful perfect (for you) men out there, so don’t sell yourself short, and don’t settle! let love happen, without grudges, and let every guy be himself and make his own mistakes.