Ok, so my last girlfriend left me because she’s gay. She’s the only girl I have ever dated, and one of the few who lives up to my standards. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, or fool around, and I’m a devout Christian. From what I’m told, I am pretty good looking (“adorable! gorgeous eyes! like a Roman statue!) and I am VERY intelligent. However, most girls at my college are superficial preps who are absolutely incompatible with me. I feel like I’m running out of options for finding someone. Every day, some formerly innocent girl loses her innocence, does drugs, or drinks alcohol. My pool of potentials is slowly dwindling. I’m no good at small talk–I hate small talk, and I’m only good at discussing serious matters.
Should I consider online dating sites? I’m only 19 and a freshman in college, but I don’t think my situation will get any better. However, I feel like it would be the loserish way out, and there’s no guarantee that I’d find someone compatible with myself. What should I do?
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Yes, it’s important to remember that you are still so young and just by putting yourself out there, doing the things you enjoy and making the most of life, it would be very unlikely for you not to find someone with whom you are compatible eventually. Have you also considered taking a look at the barriers you may be putting up that may be stopping you from meeting the right person – you describe most of the girls you go to school with as “superficial preps” but discounting so many people that you don’t know very well could also be considered superficial. You could try to broaden your horizons a bit and try to be more open-minded?
You really need to remember that seeing as you are only a freshman in college, you have plenty of time to find that right someone. Don’t press matters, just put yourself out there (in the right situations) and wait. Love is worth waiting for. Just remember that Jesus made that perfect someone just for you, and your path has been set to meet that person, and you just need to give time for this meeting to occur.
It seems that you think VERY highly of yourself, which I’m not criticizing (hey, I love myself too), but as a consequence you have very high expectations of the girl that you would like to meet. These expectations might have to be lowered eventually… I have never met an 18 or 19 year old girl who does not drink on occasion or likes to talk only about serious topics. The reality is: girls like small talk, that’s how we get to know you. Serious topics are great, again on occasion, but they are very controversial; therefore, from our perspective, we don’t want to give in our point of view, but we don’t want to fight about something like that with the guy that we like… that’s why we don’t start them or start them with the people that we’re very comfortable with. I’d recommend to join some sort of good-cause organization (which might be related to a church, since you’re a devout Christian) where you might meet that ideal girl; or maybe a debate society where girls do talk about serious topics.
Well Im Christian too and i know how you feel.. I don’t think you should worry right now about finding the right girl you are young and only 19 you have your whole life ahead of you.. in time God will bring her to you, don’t you think? well i feel like a total hypocrite because i complain all the time about not finding the right guy and all and I am also19 lol.. but at the ended of the day i just know that i have to be patient and have faith that it will come to me… instead of me looking for it? well good luck
Parties are always a great way to find partners… i went to a really random party and i found the girlfriend I’m currently with because i followed it up! its been 3 and a half months now and I’m really happy
Just… good luck, whatever happens.
Well first thing I think its great you don’t do all those things, its rare to find people like that.
What I want to say is this:
If you are as devout a Christian as you say you are then you should know that God has a plan for you (Jeremiah 29:11) and instead of trying to fill your time finding a girlfriend maybe you should try to figure out what God wants you to do that you can only do while you are single.
I wouldn’t bother with Internet Dating. I think that theres someone for everyone and if its meant to be God will make it happen at the right time (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
Another tip, as a girl I know that girls NOT attracted to guys who love to talk about how great they are like you just did in your question. Although I’m not saying that you aren’t all those things, if I were you I would try to be less cocky.