However, I am giving up on dating altogether. Everyone says that I have a pretty face ,but noone is interested. I tried online dating, phone chat. No success. Been there tried that. I am to the point that maybe there are some people on earth that isn’t meant to be with that someone special. Most of my friends are engaged or married with rugrats. My father is upset that I am not married and giving him grandchildren but I am not interested in getting married. I just want to be with someone. So, everyone. Do you believe that most people’s destiny is not to have anyone at all? I am giving up on love completely. dont even suggest eharmony? They are a bunch of bunk
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I agree. Stop looking cause I think sometimes women show an over eager need to have a boyfriend and this can be a turn off. I believe there is somebody special for everybody, they just have to meet in the right place at the right time. I would suggest doing some kind of classes such as art or painting/ decorating / foreign language- as a way of meeting people and be open to invitations to go places and meet new people. Don’t go on the pretension of meeting a potential date if not to just have fun.
Okay, it seems like people think you are out of the dating game. You have to get the word out that you are single and in the dating game. Do you go to nightclubs? If you have tried that, how about church and church functions. I met a few nice guys on chat lines. My friend got in touch with a few guys on singles columns in the newspaper. I hope you meet your someone soon. There must be something in your attitude that make guys think you are taken. Don’t wear rings on your ring finger. When you meet men, look them in the eyes and smile. I can’t think of anything else. Men love car shows. Go to places me go to.
STop looking. And he will come.
I had proplems with dating sites because I have such an unusual personallity. people who think outside the box are less likely to end up in a box.
34 SWM professional somewhat well educated. Similar predicament.
You might try to look for some kind of casual easy thing where two people get together and talk a bit and marriage relationship etc is not mentioned.
Their are advantages to being two, as opposed to one. Less time spent doing errants individually, less stress because someone to talk to about life. Having an accessory to shop off at partys and get togethers.
I can understand your frustration about dating and finding the right person. I have also tried the on-line personals, IM messenging.
I personally y do not believe that people’s destiny is to be alone, at least I hope not because I still want to meet someone that I can spend the rest of my life with.
PLease do not give up on love there is someone out there for you and hopefully for me.
You can IM me or email me if you want to talk.
Bill
umm, you mentioned that you tried online dating, phone chat.. but are those people serious in finding their love as you? I can only tell you that free dating sites are low quality.. quality dating sites are not free. whether you believe or not..100% true.. to tell you the truth, i found my love on gothicsoulmate.com .. it’s not a free site but it’s really worthy every pound. good luck to you..
that is not recommended for your dating time, because as you know in internet network you will find with more much people character and that all not really with they are character on really life. you must smart thinking and optimal your brain
Perhaps you need to push out of your comfort zone and stop looking so hard. I’m 22 but not flirty at all and have no success with guys. Do you need to show more interest? Are you aiming too high for ambitious individuals who are self-focused?
Try to meet new people, I guess. It’s hard I suppose.
Well i think you don’t have to limit the places where you meet guys, well internet isn’t the only way to meet them. You can also try to be on some gatherings, workplace, or even some of your friend’s will help you to meet some guys or introduced them to you. The problem here sometimes is not merely by finding them but also the questions of dealing with them to let them be actually interested with you and connect with you in a deeper level, even a woman is pretty men find that intimidating if we don’t show enough appreciation to them, treat them respectfully, talk to them nicely show a genuine interest to them not merely talking abt yourself all the time. A Guy can also sense that you are not interested with him if you aren’t listening well and you are giving him a bad remark, thats a bad no-no. You have to be confident enough so try focusing on the good qualities of men, and don’t display the “not interested sign” in your face. You can work it out by simply being yourself it doens’t matter if you want to marry or be single forever but if if you want to have a relationship start being friendly to the opposite sex and leave some misconceptions behind it won’t do any good, Men are not all the same anyway, there are still some good guys around anyway you just have to work your way to them. Dont be afraid to show them how you feel..they will appreciate it and it also means that you are confident! Go Girl!
That’s a tough one. I am SWM 37, but was married. I lost my wife over ten years ago. My question is do we get more than one soulmate? So I would say that I don’t believe anyone’s destiny is to not have anyone at all. I believe you just have to wait until you find them. For some people it takes longer. But when it happens it will be worth the wait.
Keep your head up. God luck.
dont give up, continue to meet other people. destiny comes
unexpected. same here, I’m 29 yrs old no girlfriend. but I’m
taking a day at time. one will come and I’ll give her the best of
what I can give.
dam baby where are you from i need someone like you
Some of the advice already given is not half bad some of it is bad. The thing is you got to live life for you. Don’t try to make others vicariously happy through you. Live your best life. If that means being single be single – just be happy with the blessings you have. You could find a man with more issues than you have. You sound like a smart intuitive person. My recommendation is that you seek happiness and not necessarily a man. The thing that I have realized is that most people in relationships aren’t as happy as they pretend to be. I say take advantage of your single lifestyle and do some charity work, mentor, spend more time understanding your faith, take a spontaneous vacation every now and then. The important thing is that you live life. Of course you have to spend more time on investment planning and thinking about a future alone. But I wouldn’t trade my single life for a crappy relationship for all the tea in China. Stop letting others tell you how to live. It is your life and a relationship won’t make you happy if you are not already happy. On another note, join a gym, get some new clothes, try a new hairstyle – just because there is snow on the roof don’t mean there’s no fire in the furnace.
Why don’t you take a night class at a local community college in a subject that interests you. Perhaps you’ll meet someone with similar interests and find the love of your life. I find that my initial attraction to a woman is physical, but once I get to know them, the physical is no longer important. An emotional connection is much more important than a physical one.
oh honey… i know how you feel. i know how depressing that is.
believe it or not, you find love when you are not looking for it. trust me, coz thats the reason why im married right now.
dont fully give up on love, just rearrange your priorities. put love aside for a second and try to bump up your friends and work to your priority list. go out as much as you can…! but with friends of course.
i dont agree though that some people’s destiny is to die alone. i dont even believe in destiny at all. its a choice. so cheer up a little bit. there IS someone out there and is probably frustrated like you are.
Yep! Actually according to my high school values teacher…
there are three courses after graduation
1. to have a family (to be a wife or husband)
2. to be a priest or nun
3. to be a single-blessed
Some people really fall on the third. Like that of my teacher. She has the same insights as you when it comes to love but she said she doesnt want to look for a guy anymore. She is really happy taking good care of her parents and her nieces.
Maybe your happiness too don’t depend on a partner. Actually in some cases they are just some kinda burden.
Just enjoy life. ….
with your friends
and with your family. ^_^
where you live??
I could NOT AGREE more. I am a 42 yr old guy in the same shoes.