I need help! I’m a 26 yr old guy starting to delve into online dating as another venue. Up to this point, I’ve always felt meeting online and conversing intimately online to be two dimensional for my taste and just not for me. I’ve always felt conversing and relationships in person were more genuine.
But, I’m trying to change this because I met two great girls who would like to know me and vice versa online (unfortunately it’s long distance too). This experience is completely new to me and I need basic tips on communication, feeling comfortable doing so and being able to keep things fresh and non repetitive. I think my main problem is just getting past the ‘how are you’ type letters and feel i need to up the intimacy to show interest. If I don’t I usually withdraw but how do i do it without seeming like a pervert or coming off desperate?
I know I’m asking a lot, but could you provide me with good and bad experiences, several things to avoid talking about and things to talk about?
Much Thanks!!
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If its long distance, and you could see yourself relocating to one place, but not the other, that’s a pretty easy way to eliminate one woman. If they would both be willing to move to you were things to get serious, then you still have both. webcams and microphones or cell phones are a great way to have a conversation with someone where you can feel like you are actually talking with them.
I’ve personally had a lot of experience with the online dating venue and I can tell you there is nothing like actually meeting the person to establish if there’s chemistry. I’ve had ladies that I could talk to for hours on the phone, but had trouble saying hi once meeting in person, likewise, i’ve had ladies where phone conversation seemed very forced, but when we met, we talked in a restaurant for hours until they kicked us out, and then we found a bench to continue talking.
As far as the intimacy level goes, I really don’t think you should get into that until you’ve both met one or both of the ladies AND decided which one you really want to pursue.
Just let the conversation flow naturally. Dead spots are as common with online dating as they are with meeting someone in person. The important thing is to feel a mutual chemisty and comfort level with each other.
Best of luck.