Warning (lol): This probably seems kind of strange, but I just feel so lost on the relationship department! :’(
I have never been in an actual relationship where I can call the other guy my boyfriend. Its all I truly want in life, as pathetic as that sounds. My life is amazing, a ton of awesome friends, a great family, really nice house, car, etc. but theres just one thing missing. I feel as if I will only be complete once I’ve found a great boyfriend. I know this is a typical feeling, but it has been bothering my so much for over 6 months. Ive dated guys and they all end up being liars and jerks. I know I am a great guy w/ alot to offer & all I want is a mature relationship, but it seems like most guys (especially my age) just want to have fun. I really dont know any gay guys who arnt sluts, huge partiers, etc. so I’ve resorted to online. After numerous dates, there always seems to be something wrong with them & i just cant bring myself to settle for just anyone.
So I feel pretty upset right now after something just happened with this one guy, who yet again turned out to be a liar…
anyway I have a few questions I guess so sorry if this seems kind of random, I jsut dont know who else to go too..
Would you consider yourself a decent guy with good looks, good morals, who dosnt sleep around, dosnt drink/do drugs/smoke, has a good fun personality & respect for other guys? I’m just starting to wonder if theres anyone out there whos gay with those few qualities that mean so much to me.. or am I the only gay guy out there like this, becuase thats what it seems like 
also, what are good places I can find decent guys? I live in the chicago area, but I am not old enough to go to gay clubs because they are all 21 and over by me.. plus the guys are usually just looking for a fun time & nothing more. are there maybe any decent websites or anything? ( I hate resorting to online but theres no where else i know)
this really was a a strange post, but if you took the time to read this, thanks so much & all the answers I can get would be awesome 
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Well, I’m an older guy (23), but I smoke and drink (I don’t do drugs though).
Maybe you should try to lower your standards a little bit…I have been with my boyfriend for a while, and he hated the fact that I smoked for a while. But, in the end, he didn’t judge our relationship on that aspect, and we are still together after four years.
Maybe you just are trying too hard as well. When I met my guy, I had previously sworn off trying so hard in finding a partner and just took it day by day. That would be my advice, my friend.
I live in the Chicagoland area too! How coincidental.
I guess I am but I live 7 1/2 hrs away from you and am under age. But i agree with you that all the gay guys around tend to be out of control and immature.
ME =), but I’m too young for you!
Is there like a gay club, as in an actual club for gay rights or summit near your place? Try them, theyre probably more mature people there.
Superiority is key. Remember this.
Ugh I know how you feel! Lets go on a dating show together lol.
try looking for older guys, older guys tend to be more mature
well im 18 and feel the same way so maybe well find someone soon hell maybe we could try it out
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This post makes you look so cute. =}
I’m 17.
I consider myself decent I don’t sleep around, I don’t think I am hideous but not extremely gorgeous, I don’t smoke nor drink, and I have a fun persoanlity and I don’t disrespect unless if I am disrespected first. You aren’t the only one out there with these qualities we are in America and it is full of possibilities.
You could try websites but I really wouldn’t suggest that. it can be dangerous. Have you tried school or maybe a college once you go. I live in Indiana…how coincedental. You live in Chicago…surely there is somebody there for you. If I could find a perfect guy in my mind at my school of 500 surely you can find someone there.
I have wanted the same thing for as long as I can remember and have never found it.
All I can say is just give yourself time and don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Clubs are not the place to find a steady relationship. Most people are there for a good time and a one night stand.
The gay lifestyle isn’t easy,but neither is the heterosexual one either.
Just give it time, maintain your standards, and hopefully you will find the right person.
Hey buddy, I was feeling the same when I was 18, and I know it sucks. I’m 19 now, and live in a small town in England and it had no gay community or events at all, so i resorted to online, most of the guys I met (even before actually meeting them in real life) were just obviously only after sex or were just too immiture if they were my age, except one that I was lucky enough to meet, he was 22 at the time, and I met him a year after meeting him online, and its been going amazingly. Both of us make sure were honest to each other, and its going really well, both of us are really good looking (I’m really athletic and have a great body, and hes gorgeous
), we both stay faithful even though we only see each other once a month for a week or 2 (thats gonna change when we move in together in january hopefully), we do drink and smoke, but socially, and we have loads of fun and share the same interests in everything, plus RESPECT for each other is really important, if one of us doesnt want to do something, then its their decision, the other wont try to persuade him to do it.
I just thought I’d say that so you know that there are nice guys out there, and not all are jerks, like I said, I’m 19 now, and I have never been interested in one night stands, or just sleeping arround, if a guy doesnt want a relationship then I’m not getting in bed with them, its as simple as that. I also find that guys in their early 20′s are more interested in relationships than most teens, so thats another piece of advice you might want.
I’d say use Paltalk and search for gay rooms >.< its a cool chat program which lets you get in chat rooms, broadcast your cam, view other cams and chat using both mic or typing.
Good luck!
First of all Never tell anyone you are desperate! There are a lot of guys out there that will use you and take advantage of you. I’m sure a nice guy like you does not want that. I am like you in so many ways. I have been in one relationship and it was horrible. I would love to talk more, but time is limited. E-mail me sometime. I would love to talk.
1. I consider myself a ‘decent guy’. I don’t think I’m the type that should wear a paper bag over his head, I’d say I’m not bad looking, but no pin up on any-ones wall, unless it’s someone who really loves me.
I don’t sleep around, do drugs or smoke, but I do have the very odd drink and I have to really feel in the mood with the right company to have one. I do have a fun personality, like good jokes and love to sing with a cheery attitude, but not over powering to the point of being sickening.
I respect other guys and don’t intrude on their boundaries and don’t appreciate others intruding on mine.
I have morals and know my limits.
I am older, but probably too old for you and as I’m 46. The other draw back is I live on the west coast of Canada.
You are still young yet and there are lots of good guys out there, you just have to be patient.
Going to gay clubs isn’t always the answer or the best idea. You will probably find amongst your friends a fellow that meets your expectations; however, I don’t believe there is anyone out there that will fit your expectations to T; one has to compromise somewhat.
I too am a bit desperate.
I think I fit those standards that you posted but i’m in Ohio and I’m only 17.
At least you’ve been able to experience somewhat of a dating life. Being gay in a small farm town in Ohio isn’t easy.
They really do need a gay networking systems for teens to find them in your area.
Nrg boys” a social networking site for gays is all set to make it’s mark in United Kingdom. This site will allow users to express oneself with a avatar virtually.
Gays, Bi and Curious lads can upload their Profile, photos, videos, Blogs, news on their home page. Site will have two types of members: premium members and free members. A free member may any time upgrade his account to a premium member. Members will be allowed to communicate with each other through Messages . The members would be able to buy clothes, mobiles etc online.