Is It Really Dangerous Meeting People From Online?

I’m gay and closeted, so I can only talk to guys online. I’ve chatted with this guy for a month and then decided to meet him. We went to the movie (saw two of them actually), and we each took turn paying for the other.
He was really nice, except that I thought he was masculine based on his photos but it turned out he’s a bit flamboyant, which isn’t a problem. He’s still nice.
Hopefully he isn’t just pretending to be nice until I’m alone with him in his apartment, then the skeletons come out lol.
Any bad experiences from online dating so far?

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12 Responses to “Is It Really Dangerous Meeting People From Online?”


You Touch Me at Night November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

I only had bad experiences with girls.As for dudes….Go for it =)

Proud Mommy November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

You have to be careful with online dating as with other forms of dating.
If he is someone you want to be with then you need to talk to him about the masculine thing and just tell him that you like him and would like to make sure that both of you are honest with eachother about everything.
Online dating is not horrible like people still think it is.
You can be lied to even if you meet a person in the bar or grocery store. Only difference is they can look you in the face and do it.

Plastic Fantastic November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

I’ve never had any bad experiences (so far) but I’m not gay, and I’m not saying that only gay men have bad experiences, but I’d think there was more of a chance of having a gay man come out with something completely unexpected than with a woman.. plus women tend to require some dating before getting into bed, whereas I know a lot of gay sl*ts!

Rebekahw November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

Even though you’re closeted, you MUST let someone you trust know where you’re going when you’re meeting someone you’ve met online!! Sweetie, its only the safe thing to do!! I met my husband online believe it or not, but in the beginning, I let my friends know where I was headed. You dont have to explain its a ‘date’ persay, but at least give a friend a call to say you’re ok or have the friend call you at a certain time during your date. My husband had terrrible stories about stalker girls he had met online in the past. Just be aware, ok?
good luck to you

get a free wii November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

i think people act A LOT different when they’re behind a computer screen.
in some cases, it is scary for younger girls in their teens to meet guys that say they are in their teens as well.
violence or sexual abuse could happen when you meet someone you thought was safe.
just be careful! (:

HelloHol November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

online dating is dangeous. make sure you really think you know the person before meeting with him. and ALWAYS meet up in a public place for the first 5 dates. perferrably with friends but since your closeted then w/e.

the sexy ninja November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

if you want to try to keep going, then go, but on your toe’s. bring mace or somthing to defend yourself with and make sure you can RUN if you need too.

corina November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

not all people have bad experiences, but be careful

Alecia November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

come out of the closet im sure everyone already knows

uk paid surveys November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

You’re playing with fire…BE CAREFUL…

GhostHun November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

AAHHH! yes! Bad Experiences ……….
I was dateing someone for awhile , who i met online. Oh man i didnt think they would turn out the way they did. She cheated on me , and i recently found out that she had let 2 other guys ” molest ” her….. ARGG i was soo pissed. How can you let 1 person molest you let alone 2??? well i figured that she just let them take advatage of her and she just went with the flow. Damn her. Thats the way she was, very passive and i did not know this, not even after being with her for soo long. ANyways…. If only it said online that she was THAT TYPE of person.. i would have never gone out with her. Thats just the thing, i was with her for 10 months . No fights, not a single one, and the problem was , you as a person could only ask so many questions towards them which couldnt possibly cover all the bases . You really dont know there backround, you havent seen the way they acted and the next thing you know, your questioning yourself going ” wow was this really a good idea in the first place”. Save yourself the hassel and watch out for people online. Like i said, it will never be as obvious as someone wearing a tshirt that says ” oh please date me, i use to be a cheater, but youll never know that will yah”
Hope this helps, and good like with the person your with now. You never know, it may actually work for yah, but just keep this in the back of your mind as an extra precation. Take care!

Green Eyed Lipstick Femme November 21st, 2009 at 8:22 pm

Well- I think its a really good idea to take thinks slow. Its a good idea to meet in a public place (just like you did) for the first few dates. Always be AWARE for any signs that something might not be right. Maybe meet his friends…if you know his last name- it wouldn’t hurt to google him- just to see if anything interesting pops up. And you can always just honestly ask him.
Just be careful, be smart, be responsible.
That being said- meeting people online is a great place for gay people. My girlfriend and I met online, talked for about two weeks, and then took it slow. Coffee dates, movies, concerts, dinner, beach, etc…after you feel more comfortable, then you can do other things like going over to each other’s apartments, etc. We’re still taking it slow, but we’ve been dating for 6 months- so my experience has been really good.



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