I’m 28 (male) and have a profile setup with the online dating service – match.com. They have several methods of communication available. One is what’s called a “flirt” (otherwise known as a sort of an ice breaker). Basically, you send one to a person and hope they respond. There are quite a few different flirts available (by category of humor, serious, movies lines, etc.) So, yesterday (Saturday, 11/7) at about 1:30 pm, I found a girl (26 yrs. old) who I was interested in getting in touch with, and decided to send her one of these flirts. The one that I sent her read as, “It seems we have a lot in common. Let me know if you feel the same way”. (I felt we did, so I thought it would be reasonable to send). Long story short, about 35 minutes later she responded with, “Hey there, how’s it going?” I responded with, “Hi there, it’s going great! Are you having a good weekend so far?” Was this nosey, weird or perhaps just the wrong thing to say to someone you don’t know? I thought it was being thoughtful, but maybe it didn’t come off as such. Nonetheless, she never responded back and it’s apparently not because she’s busy. I happened to see her profile as being “online” while doing a regular profile search of women in my age range. Just want to know so that I avoid saying this in the future. Thanks!
Absolutely nothing wrong with what you said. In any context. She simply is not interested.( I hope you appreciate the honesty) It seems you are a little insecure though. Why worry about one thing said, to one random online person? Perhaps you are worried she might of been the one, and you ruined it…no. The “one” would never be driven away by such a trifle slight.:) Good luck and I hope I have been helpful
You didn’t do anything wrong at all. What you said was fine. You don’t have to avoid saying that in the future, this was just an isolated incident. Not everyone is going to answer you, and it’s nothing personal at all. That’s just how online dating is. There are definitely great people to be met, but you do have to weed through and find them. Good luck!!