My friend, best friend wants me to date this guy. She wants me to ask him out. I do want to go out with him, but he lives like 4 hours away. I meet him online. We have been talking for a year now, but I don’t know. I want to meet him, but I’m young. I am 16 he is 17 and in 2 years he and I can meet. I have seen him on web cam and I’ve given him pictures of me, so he knows what I look like. I just want to talk to him and not date him online. It would be weird.
What should I ask him, when him and I talk online? (he has his cam up all the time)
What shouldn’t I ask him or tell him?
Do people really meet online people in real life and there friendships goes into something more?
Any tips on this?
Thank you
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When I was 15, I talked to a guy online who was 17. He lived several states away. We talked online, on the phone, sent xmas gifts to each other. At the time we started talking, I had a boyfriend, he had a girlfriend. Eventually we broke up with our bf/gf. We told each other we would never date anyone until we would meet. Well about a year later, he started dating a girl. I was hurt, but I soon got over it. We never met, I haven’t talked to him since.
I was always talking in a Pennsylvania chatroom. I have met many people from that chatroom. People as friends, not a relationship. Then one day out of the blue, while I was in that PA chatroom, I chatted with a guy I never chatted with, we met 2 days later and now 11yrs later we are married.
Now granted, when I met my husband, he only lived 30mins from me. So we were seeing each other like every other day.
Online relationships can work, if both people involved want them to work.
dating online can be difficult because you get so carried away talking to them for ages on the internet, where you can take however long to reply to him, and say stuff where you dont feel embarrassed. when it comes to meeting him you will feel awkward as you are so used to speaking online, and when you talk online too much you run out of things to say when you actually meet up. dont tell him really personal things because its always good to save stuff like that for real life instead of over stupid msn and internet, it seems a bit neeky sometimes haha. xxx best wishes!
Be extremely careful if you do meet him. If it’s not a local person or a friend of a friend, I would be suspect. There are tons of predators out there. Especially older men who prey on young girls and mascaraed as younger men. Web cams and pictures are no guarantees.
Never meet at his house or a secluded location. Don’t go back home with him, etc. Meet at a busy, public place like a coffee house or restaurant.
If he is legitimate, a four hour drive makes for challenging relationship.
I’d suggest you try weopia with someone from a dating site before meeting them in person.
As a dating coach I agree with the watch out for predators part, but disagree that it means that you shouldn’t meet anyone from another state/region of the country.
If you’re interested in him, simply invite the guy to go to a birthday or party together with you and another friend of yours. That’s pretty damn safe in my book.
What you should talk about: depends… do you want to talk to him for 2 long years or what?
I don’t think you should wait that long for anyone, because internet relationships can quickly go from fun to unhealthy.
Take it from a guy who met a gold digger online, one who also cheated on him
You don’t want to end up talking to someone for hours every single day for 2 hours without seeing them… you may be disappointed.
decide how long you want to wait and if you want to do that, then Google a bit for tips on how to create attraction online!
To More Dating Success,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
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I’ve been chatting with a guy online for a little over a month. Unfortunately, he lives in a city about 2 hours away. In the beginning, we were chatting a lot and it was effortless. I am NEVER the one to bring up substantive things, but he asked me whether I’m ready for a serious relationship since getting divorced. I’m beyond ready, but I just said yes to play it cool. Things have been awkward at times (but not always) since then, but have nevertheless continued. I noticed that I was initiating an inordinate number of our chats, so I decided to stop and see what happened. Nothing happened. After forcing myself to wait until after Valentines Day to avoid looking desperate, I initiated what turned out to be a long chat. It had been a little over 2 weeks since our last chat (of this I am sure). After some introductory how are you’s,once again he’s the one who changes the subject to something substantive. I get the following “where have you been the last few months? We haven’t talked in a long while. What’s new? Any dates? We met on a dating site. Why wouldn’t I care about that?” I don’t know why he typed months when it had been weeks. Anyway, we had each had some dates that didn’t pan out, but here’s my question: In a situation like this, why would a guy constantly switch the subject to something substantive like that, but then not initiate the chats? Also, if he really cared about anything related to me, why doesn’t he bring up meeting me?