Hi I met a guy online feb this year we started to each other and have continued since managing so far every month to see we also talk every single night on phone for quite long periods .I keep on repatedly fidning him on dating sights,gay ,straight,tvs,cds,tgs.etc.I have a way of finding this information out wont go into that here but I always find it out when hes joined them.This is tearing me apart,making me ill,he professes his love for me but im not a stupid kid how the hell can he if hes doing this to me id told him time after time after time how much this hurts me and that its deceitful,dishonest and I actually doubt his sexuality and that frightens me in case ive caught something from him.I also do not believe a word this man tells me simply because of all of the above,What i cant understand is hes so generous and stuff and when we are together its brill we get on fine .Its wearing me down bigtime and I really cannt take much more id like other opinions on this matter jazzy
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OK, firstly, if you’re worried, get yourself down the GUM clinic and get a check up -peace of mind for your body, that’s essential.
Talk to him. confront him openly about what you’ve found out – OK, this is going to upset one of your lovely meetings when you usually get on so well, but you NEED to know where you stand, don’t you… At the end of the day, this is him, whatever he does you need to understand and then work out whether the relationship is going to work for you. He has those needs, can you face it? Can you put up with it until he stops -if he ever does? Good luck, don’t get hurt.
so think of yourself first and dump him. ive been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years. hes my childhood sweetheart and i love him with all my heart. i forget all the good times we have and get frustrated that we’re getting nowhere. we’re getting married soon and hes the one im meant to be with. we have our times but it gets better. you never see the bad times in a picture book.
think of being able to have a guy tell you he loves you and mean it. or give you something you never thought he could give you. letting you try for what you want when you know its not really what he wanted. there are SOOOO many guys out there that could be the man of your dreams. if hes not making you happy look somewhere else. he doesnt matter anymore. i know you love him but i believe theres 1 person out there meant for someone and you havnt found him yet. trust me you’ll know when you do.
my advice to you is to tell him that you do not think that what he is doing is appropriate. if you are exclusive then he must not care as much as you obviously do. i would tell him yet again how you feel and tell him that if he does it again that you are done with the relationship. i think that will benefit you both. he is a wanderer and you want someone more committed. if he is trying to sneak, that is not good for a relationship either.
i hope this helps, i know it is easier said than done.
My parner did a similar thing to me, finding out what places i’d been online etc, but it turned out to be someone who had ‘cloned’ my addy, i wasn’t best pleased about it and neither was she, we’re still together and very, very happy, take all things into account before you do the final accusation, it can and from 1st hand knowledge create a hell of a lot of bad feeling, hope things work out for you
Why do you need to ask this question, you answered it yourself. Leave this chicken head alone. If you can’t believe a word he says how can you trust his actions… girl move on, you got biggerr fish to fry.
Some of us are pretty smooth talkers sweetie. so its not that a person who is into all these things cant talk nicely or make u feel special. Drop him. right now.
get rid of this loser, and fast!
keep it in perspective….he isnt cheating online…there is not such act
Confront him about it and lay down the rules, but, I dont think he will change as it is too easy for him to cheat this way. Maybe you should dump him and find someone you can trust!
these are your words….”I also do not believe a word this man tells me simply because of all of the above” you can not trust him and i don’t blame you. you have asked him to stop doing this, even though he knows it hurts you he continues. he will not change, leave this guy alone. stop all contact with him he doesn’t care about your feelings.
seems to me he is just looking for some fun. you mean nothing to him. he;s feeding you lies and i think he just pounces on the one that gives in to his charades. Don’t go deeper into the relationship.
and you are putting yourself through this because…….?
You don’t have to deal with it. You are the only one who can change it!
i agree with jaden404 …………. lose that asshole hes not worth yur time
I think you’ve answered your own question. You are miserable, it makes you sick, you don’t trust him at all, you know he lies etc. Sometimes it’s hard to admit to ourselves we’ve made a mistake but deep inside you know what you should do without any advise from us. Take a deep breath, and go for it. At first it will be hard but there’s someone else out there better for you. Love shouldn’t make you sick it should make you happy.
What’s the problem? He’s a lying loser who’s using you. Ditch him.
You need to break-up with him. If you cannot trust him, the relationship is worthless.
Why are you still with him? I wouldn’t allow anyone to treat me that way. It doesn’t matter how cute he is or anything else, he’s playing you sugar and you need to put a stop to it.
Consider it a lesson learned, and move on.
Uhm, ok. There really isnt much to debate here, you should break it off with him if it is bothering you that much . It could be that he is simply addicted to dating sights or maybe he is gay and in denial. Either way, you should never allow yourself to get physically ill over someone else you are involved with. If you have a problem with something he does and he wont change you need to move on. Not to belittle the situation with a cliche but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
This might sound harsh but your saying your not a kid and your acting like a very stupid one.
Wake up and smell the bullsh*t!
This guy is a player, he’s probably got a few other girls and maybe a few guys on the go, do you want to sleep with someone whose having sex with men?
My god woman, take a step back and take a look at what’s happening as an outsider looking in.
He’s lying through his teeth, you have a relationship based on nothing because it’s all lies.
You get on great because that’s what players do, they are well versed in telling you what you want to hear, saying the right things at the right time, it’s like a game to them, they practise all the time.
Walk away, just walk away.
How do you deal with it? Well, from your question its plain to see that your gonna be with him despite the bs. How to deal depends on your charater. I say drop him, others may join similar sites for a wake up call, or even hook up with someone else. If you not gonna drop him, confront him with it. Join the same sites he frequents and hit him up for a date. See how far he will take the cheating. Then nail him
leave him. find someone else who isnt so shady. you deserve it mann. be careful though, there are some scary people out there
(as if you didnt already know that.) good luck
Stop reading his email. You’ll just start imagining and seeing things that aren’t actually there every time he signs up for a new site. No harm in window shopping!
Simple. Find someone else. Also, learn that just because someone might be gay or bi doesn’t automatically mean they have aids. If you are worried about go and get yourself tested.
You aren’t happy with him, I can tell, and in the long run you won’t be happy at all unless he cleans up his act. If you truly love each other, then keep going, but if you find his actions inhibiting your relationship from being happy-ever-after, then “take a break” from him and move on.
Plain and simple, leave him.
You don’t trust him, you doubt his sexuality and it is making you ill. Is there really any point in continuing?
online dating is his habbit it will be haed to serparate with his habbit he is now addicted to online dates leave this looser get a life next time dont look for guys on line most are players they cant handle local girls thats why they advertise themselves they are ZERO
Hey, my god i feel iam reading my own story. ?I met a guy on a sight lastyear and we started seeing eachother, after a couple of months i took myself down off the sights as we had moved on and becane a couple, i asked him if he did the same and he assured me he did, something inside told me different and i searched so many sights and found him in all of them, i told him face to face i thought he was a dishonest asshole and he told me he couldnt help it he needed the attention, i walked away but he told me he loved me and begged me go stay, i gave him a chance and found his phone only to see he was in contact with so many girls it was a addicion beyond belief, i rang each girl and none had ever met him a few were so embsrrsed, i removed him from every sight and took down all his email addresses, he said he was so releived i had found out and was destroyed emotionally because of this, thing is we are still together and i find myself looking for him and always wanting to see his phone, trust is hard to re build and a year on i find it very hard but iam in so deep now their is no going back,Before it is too late LEAVE WITH YOUR SANITY AND SOME HOPE THAT THE FUTURE WILL BRING A REAL GENUINE MAN WHO IS A MAN.
Take Care and good luck