I was dating a man and we had a major falling out where he blames me for ruining his life (which I didn’t) and it ended with him telling me he has moved on and never wanted to hear from me ever again. I never responded to his last remark, but instead blocked his email and text messages and moved on with my life and focused all my time toward my business. Since then my business has taken off and I have been advertising more on the web.
A month after our falling out I saw someone had posted my personal information on the web and listed me as a lawyer on one site and on a sex dating site. I also started recieving calls to my company phone number from people who claim my number was a radio show phone number. This may be random do to my increase visibility on the web, but I can’t say this for sure.
Two months after our falling out I saw he has been checking out my website. I know his IP address and I have the ability to track his clicks through sessions and he keeps searching my site clicking on every contact us link and ends up on my contact page where he sits for a long period of time.
The only way he can contact me through my website is to fill out an online form, which requires him to list his name and email address or the message will not be sent. He hasn’t sent me a message yet and this has been going on for a month and half now. I gather by his search pattern he is trying to locate my email address.
I am curious do you think he is attempting contact me or is he up to no good? If he is trying to contact me why doesn’t he just fill out the form, why would he need my email address?
I don’t care if he is attempting to contact me, I am just worried if he isn’t intending to hurt my business.
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Since you parted on bad terms with him claiming you ruined his life and since then started having problems it is hard to believe he wants to apologize and make up. If he really was interested in making up, he would use your contact form with out any hesitation and email you saying he was sorry. However, your previous problems and him hesitating seems like he is up to no good.
I would watch him and be on the alert.
If you can track him tracking you that well, then you should be abe to find out if it is he who has been posting your phone number on all these other sites.If it is, you can file charges for harrassment against him.
I know it sounds extreme but I would try to make some sort of legal report incase something does happen ….. if he left thinking of you as having ruined his life, he very well may be trying to ruin yours.
Dump the chump
No, you should drop it. It’s not your fault.
I just have to ask: why did he say you ruined his life?
As a dating coach I know from experience that men are far from experts in the expressing emotions department (you already knew that, right?), but they also SUCK at explaining what’s really wrong.
99% chance he meant to say I’m really not happy with you (not) doing XYZ, but since he’s just like most other guys, he expressed it in a far from ideal way.
Proof: say he’s obsessed by hurting you or your business, do you really think he would go to your contact form and do NOTHING?
A guy would either sign you up for a thousand sex sites, send you ten million contact forms, or call you in the middle of the night with caller ID blocked.
That’s typical behavior I see with students who don’t have their emotions under control.
The behavior he’s displaying though is typical “I want you back” behavior. Think about it. Why would he look at the form that long?
He wants to say he didn’t mean what he said, he’s bothered by you guys ending all ties, he wants to say he meant XYZ instead of what he said… but he’s a guy, so he can’t.
And as a fellow businessman I can only say: controversy sells
So do you see how you’re in a win-win situation here?
To More Dating Success,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
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