Comments on: Should Men Be Given Second Chances?

By: over40dating

over40dating — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 09:08:03 +0000

I think the best thing to do at this situation is to listen to your heart. No one can advise you better.

By: Local London Adult Dating

Local London Adult Dating — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 13:16:34 +0000

First of all you should not love a man like him. If he has raped you you should call the police, no rapper should walk free. He will do this again to other women, I am sure.

By: Chariot

Chariot — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

Not this kind of man.

By: δίκοπο μαχαίρι

δίκοπο μαχαίρι — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

Run, girl…and don’t look back.

By: tornado of souls

tornado of souls — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

wait…you didn’t call the cops when he raped you?

By: Calvin

Calvin — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

If you were my daughter I would put the boy in a hospital (or far worse)….
you should stay clear of a man like that.

By: Luci J

Luci J — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

Wow. When I first saw this my first thought was NO you should not give a man a second chance. Then I read the rest of what you wrote. Jeez hon you need to talk to someone and I am sure it feels so lonely and I am sure you don’t know which way to go because of your feelings. This is so mixed and I can understand why you write this. I understand your confusion (more than you know). You were in love with him and those emotions were there when he raped you. I am sure there are a pile of emotions on top of that as well. Take it from me you need to go to counseling. You CAN forgive him but you should not go back to him. He needs counseling too. Believe it or not there are actually some men that do this and only to that one woman and not to every woman they have been with – I don’t understand it completely but it must be the dynamics of these two individuals that come into play. He might even deny it was rape – even when he continues to do it. He might even try to put the blame on you like this is what you wanted or we were going to eventually do it anyway. But this is beside the point even if you think he will never do it again and he thinks he never will you both need counseling. REALLY need it. Please get it and don’t meet up with him. You have to work on this issue that has to do with you first. You know if you want to email me you can. I know people are saying all these rotten things about him and maybe it does not measure up with the person you knew him to be before he did what he did. Is he completely rotten? I am sure you think he is not and that is why you are so confused. But above all right now is not the time to meet with him. You are still too vulnerable. Email me if you need to. May God bless you sweety. I’m sending prayers.

By: littlela

littlela — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

I am a Christian, I believe in forgiveness. In this case you can forgive but keep your distance. HE RAPED YOU!!! He proved to you that he is dangerous. Maybe he changed his ways, but I doubt it, I wouldn’t want to give him another chance to find out if he really did change or not. Protect yourself, leave the criminal alone, and find a man who will love you and protect you and cherish you for what you are. There is a difference between forgiving and looking for trouble. You don’t have to be friends with everyone. People have the misconception that God is all loving all the time. God does love all but there does come a time when God says enough is enough. This is why Hell exists. He punishes those that continue to rebel. Some people never change. Don’t be a victim for a second time. God Bless

By: Samantha B

Samantha B — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

I cant give you avise as a christian but I can give you avise as a woman who has been through a similar experiance. Get as far away from that man as possible. Forgiveness can only take you so far… and I nearly got killed because I forgave the wrong man one to many times. Sometimes it can reach a point of beating a dead horse, why even consider continuing in a relationship that you know would never work out. Bottom of the line… if he raped you he did not care about you or what your wants are, that means he did not respect you. And that he did not ever love you. Get him away, call the cops if he wont. But he should eventually move on to someone else and get out of your hair. Start dating someone else, there are always better guys out there… always. And even the better ones are still pigs.

By: DOUGHBOY

DOUGHBOY — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:34:51 +0000

If you would leave him alone, he would eventually leave you alone, and practice and time makes for closure.
If a man loves you does he rape you? No. Why do you only think there is this only one man in the world that you have to choose from to GIVE YOUR LOVE to?
He’s is not a good choice and your love should be motivated to a man who loves you also and doesn’t lie stating he loves you when you know he does not. A man cherishes and listens to the woman he loves; he does not do violence to her and hurt her.
This guy is maybe obsessed with you, but he does not love you. If you continue this situation with him, he will beat you next and maybe even kill you. You are worth so much more than this. Why do you think you cannot get any better? That you cannot, or are unable to seek out another man who will truly show you what love is?
A man who loves his woman, marries her, and does right by her. He does not commit acts of violence towards her. HE DOES NOT EVEN KNOW WHAT LOVE IS, for if he did, why would he feel the need to rape you? to commit acts of violence upon you?
This man is not from God for he is from Satan the devil and this situation is only a prelude to more delusional, psychotic and violent acts from this man. I know I went through this in my younger years and I got out in time. The one I loved who raped me and beat me is now over 40 years old and has been doing time in a maximum prison for off and on throughout life; a loser and a violent individual — has never changed but has gotten worse. The family of this individual aided and abedded the conduct but there was little or no discipline. It comes from the family and is up to the individual to break the mold; if he does not, get away.
RUN!