I am almost 25. Pretty much since I was 18, I was involved in some kind of guy drama. I’m past the drama point, and I can honestly say I have only had one serious relationship, it lasted for 3 years. It ended badly, but this isn’t the point of my question. I am totally single now, and I am new Christian, so I don’t want to waste any time on casual dating, I want to wait until God brings the man into my life who will be my husband. I’m working full time, so that takes alot of time, and I also go to school online. So, its not like I don’t have stuff to keep me occupied. I just feel anxious, like how long am I going to be single, and what if it isn’t God’s plan for me to get married? Just wondering if anyone has anything helpful to say that will make me happy and content being single right now! Thanks!
First of all, I love my husband! We have been together for almost 5 years (off and on) and have been married for 6 months. During the 5 years we have been through much, from infidelity ( not on my part) and a lot of dishonesty. Together we have worked through much, or so I believed. I lost two children in a car accident, which he really never addresses and throws his going to their grave in my face. And then there are the finances, which his money is his, my money is ours.
Two years ago, I ended my relationship with his mother because I didn’t feel she was being honest with me and created her own version of situations, with her own spin once I ended our relationship! It’s not true, but as she almost destroyed her own relationship with her son, and they do not talk now, she had to put everything thing on me in an attempt to save her relationship with her son. She claims to be a devout Christian, but she is the most evil woman I know.
Last night, my husband brought up that whole situation again. It’s been two years and I truly don’t wish to discuss his mother! He had heard my side of the story so many times and honestly it is hurtful to me. I question why he keeps bringing it up, but I am to NEVER bring up his mistakes wherein he hurt me terribly!
There are times I find that my husband lies to me about stupid stuff. So I had him tracked by a private when I was out of town on business. He told me he was home but was tracke to his job. Why lie? I don’t care if he goes to work on a Saturday. Other than I’m told he is making calls from work and on the internet talking to women. (He met alot of women online before we met and cheated with some while we were dating). I am concerned. But my husband denies things even knowing he is caught. Then, he thinks he has a right to bring up the past like its acceptable.
Any suggestions??? I am at my witt’s end and I really think I need to end my marriage!
Ok, please just read my story…
I met this girl in highschool my senior year, she was perfect. Beautiful, extremely smart, and treated me great. We had fun, i wasnt the best boyfriend, mind you i never had a girlfriend i didnt know how to be a boyfriend. She had just gotten out of a 4 year relationship with a guy she had been seeing since preteen. Despite all this i never seen any problems in our relationship. The time had came for us to go to college, she went to an all girlschool, i was taking the year off so i stayed home. She was only 10 miles away so i commuted a few times to spend the day with her. One nite we shared a passionate foreplay session, i was a virgin and she knew this. She asked me if i was ready, and i said yeah. But i wasnt, i was really scared, and i felt unsure. I couldnt even get it up once it came down to actually getting it in lol. Sooo that was the last time i seen her. I went home that night called her old her i loved her. 1 week later i found out she was cheating on me for weeks with a girl that looked like a guy. She turned into a lesbian. She stopped calling me, she told me the truth that she wasnt inlove with me online, and she was sorry. I spent 7 months with this girl, i loved her with all my heart. I have not seen her face to face since the break up. I was shocked hurt, and depressed. Its been 4 years since… I have not been with, touched, or even kissed another girl since then. I really wish i could find someone new, but i cant. I dont know why! Im really a cute handsome guy, everyone thinks im gay, family friends etc. They cant understand how someone like me can remain single for so long. Sometimes i wonder if im still hung up on my ex, but i feel like im over it. I just need a new fling, which i cant i find no matter how hard i try. I dont go out, i have very little friends as a result. I dont hangout at night, i dont party. I go to school, work, and home. I have social anxiety to the max.
I just want to find a girl. What should i do?
And NO it’s not me! I’m married. This woman is in the medical profession and makes great money. She’s interesting and fun. On the downside, she’s very tall and somewhat heavy. Yet certainly more attractive than many people out there who have found mates. She’s placed personal ads online and socializes frequently. What advice can I give her? This has been going on for 6 years! She means the world to me and I want her to be happy.
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