Online Dating Blog

It’s been nearly 2 months since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me over trust issues I had with him, because he was texting a female coworker the entire time he was dating me. He broke up with me saying that he did not want to deal with my trust issues, then when I called him shortly afterwards to ask him to meet with me to try to work things out, he sent me an email that said he didn’t see us getting back together and that he had things he needed to work out for himself. I never responded to his email and have not contacted him since.
On Valentine’s Day, when I checked my online dating profile on match.com, I noticed he’d viewed my profile (there’s a section that shows you who views your profile).
Of course, I have not been able to stop thinking about him since I saw that he checked out my profile. I want to call or email him to say that I saw that he checked out my profile — use that as an excuse to contact him again. We didn’t date very long — almost 4 months — and had I not confronted him about his texting this other woman, who knows we may still be together. I really want to get him back. I’ve been on several dates since he broke up with me but I compare all the men to him and it’s really stressing me out. I miss my ex-boyfriend a lot and want a second chance with him.
Tell me this, why would he bother to check out my profile if he’s truly moved on, and is back on match.com browsing other women’s profiles?
I had changed my username when rejoined so he couldn’t have found my profile that way. Plus, on match.com if you don’t know the person’s username, all you can do is a random search. And even if my profile randomly popped up in his 5 daily matches, I still wonder why he’d bother rereading my profile if he’s moved on.
We’re both in our late 30s and I don’t know if that makes any difference.