I need help! I’m a 26 yr old guy starting to delve into online dating as another venue. Up to this point, I’ve always felt meeting online and conversing intimately online to be two dimensional for my taste and just not for me. I’ve always felt conversing and relationships in person were more genuine.
But, I’m trying to change this because I met two great girls who would like to know me and vice versa online (unfortunately it’s long distance too). This experience is completely new to me and I need basic tips on communication, feeling comfortable doing so and being able to keep things fresh and non repetitive. I think my main problem is just getting past the ‘how are you’ type letters and feel i need to up the intimacy to show interest. If I don’t I usually withdraw but how do i do it without seeming like a pervert or coming off desperate?
I know I’m asking a lot, but could you provide me with good and bad experiences, several things to avoid talking about and things to talk about?
Much Thanks!!
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I am glad to hear that you are starting to expand your horizons. In the technical age computer dating makes sense. I have often thought that it would probably be a good way to meet other people interested in dating. I can’t imagine being single. Where else would you look. Grocery stores, bars, church ? From the commercials it appears if they have a wide screening tool so you would likely meet someone who would make you very happy. Not another misled feminist….YIKES!! How do you feel about online dating like through eharmony and stuff? And if you like it do you know of any good sites that are free? In less than 48 hours, I will be meeting my brother for the first time. He is my last missing family member. There’s a friend of mine who’s a lesbian, but she hasn’t come out to everyone yet….just me. She’s been dating this girl online for almost a year now and it’s never really been good. She always comes to me to talk about her relationship problems since I’m the only one who knows. Well now they’re trying to decide if they’re going to break up…and I think they should because this girl just seems to playing games with my friend. My friend has texted me everyday for the past 2 weeks about this because she doesn’t know what to do….I’m getting so tired of talking about it because it’s the same thing over and over again. She just texted me about it and i pretty much told her i don’t want to talk about it anymore. Is that being mean of me??? Ok, so my last girlfriend left me because she’s gay. She’s the only girl I have ever dated, and one of the few who lives up to my standards. I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, or fool around, and I’m a devout Christian. From what I’m told, I am pretty good looking (“adorable! gorgeous eyes! like a Roman statue!) and I am VERY intelligent. However, most girls at my college are superficial preps who are absolutely incompatible with me. I feel like I’m running out of options for finding someone. Every day, some formerly innocent girl loses her innocence, does drugs, or drinks alcohol. My pool of potentials is slowly dwindling. I’m no good at small talk–I hate small talk, and I’m only good at discussing serious matters. My friend told me she has been feeling like a lesbian, and met a girl online who she wants to meet in person. The girl she met is a lesbian, and has asked her if she is bi or been in a relationship with a girl before, and my friend hasn’t replied to her and wants to get my opinion. She has only been in relationships with men and is afraid she’ll never get to be one with a lesbian if they pre-judge her based on her history. Any thoughts or advice I can pass on to her? |
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