By the way, this would be my first date with a girl I met through the internet and I’m excited to meet her in person for the first time. I have only been on one other date with a girl and that was more of a fling (because she didn’t want anything serious). Anyway, I’m not very experienced at dating chics and I have never had a relationship with one – but it would be great if it worked out with this girl.
Any good ideas will be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
I live with my fiance and we have been together a year and a half. I have caught him online in the past on dating web sites and checking out other women. He talked his way out of it and apologized and stopped doing it. Then, recently I found that he sent an email to a married woman (who happens to be unhappy in her marriage and married to one of his family members). This woman has a romantic interest in my fiance, which he has admitted to me. However, he has stated that he feels nothing for her other than friendship and “family” even though she’s not blood related – rather she is married to one of his family members. She initiated the email to him but he responded and in his response he said that he has been thinking of her for so long & that he was happy she contacted him and broke the ice. He is claiming this is totally innocent & that they are just friends. I don’t go for that! Not only that but he feels that it is okay for him to have female friends. Is it okay? I don’t think so
I got out of a serious relationship a few months ago. I was madly in love & it ended suddenly and without warning as he was cheating. I’m coping and getting over it, but I had grown accustomed to having someone to come home to, snuggle with, & share stuff with. I miss it. I’m clearly not ready for anything serious right now but do like dating & getting that male attention. But at the same time, the situation with my ex has me kind of discouraged and put off by men as I thought I was going to marry this man and he turned out to be an a**hole. I’m considering checking out some online dating sites to help me get back in the game. But part of me thinks that’s just pathetic and for desperate people. Not to be conceited but I would consider myself a fairly attractive person inside and out (22, intelligent, 5’5″, 125lbs) & could go to the club & get some numbers but tired of that scene. Is online dating worth it or is it just desperate old guys looking to get lucky & what are good free sites?
I reverted(he says new to Islam are always reverts not converts because we all are born Muslims) from Orthodox Christianity to Islam.
I was a very practicing Orthodox Christian, went to Church, prayed to Jesus, and believed in the Trinity.
So, I started dating a Muslim boy(same age as me) I met while ago, and we became together about 2 weeks ago. I really love him and he does too.
One day we started talking about religion and I was shocked to know he was so knowledgeable about not just his religion Islam, but also Christianity.
So we started detailing all the similarities of the two religions, and we were going great until we came to the subject of GOD. Obviously I brought up the Trinity and Jesus being our Savior, and that’s where his looks fell down. He sighed and then it started. The “Parting of the Ways between Islam and Christianity”.
We started arguing(lightly) for like 3 hours in the park, trying to explain each other the truth, but he got the advantage because he not only has memorized verses from the Holy Quran but also from the Bible.
I don’t know how and why but by the time he dropped me off home, I started questioning my faith. The way he explained to me the Divinity of God really shook me, and the way he broke down the Trinity shattered me. I never saw it the way he showed it to me, and I decided I had to do something. That night I started researching about the similarities and differences of the two religions and came across a Russian-version of the Holy Quran and started reading it. I don’t know why but I couldn’t stop and went well into the night around 3AM reading it online.
So and so happened, I got closer and closer to Islam and just recently I read the Shahada and have completed the process a few days ago in a Mosque; and he was crying while I said it in front of an Imam and so was I.
But now the real question arises, how do I tell my mother that I no longer am a Christian? My boyfriend is scared that I and my mother will fight because of this and is doing his best to aid me in this, for example, being there with me when I reveal the truth and everything; but I usually don’t get along with my mother, we barely see each other much during day and it’s gonna be hard. I live with my mother alone btw.
Help please? Muslims and Christians and any other helper welcome.
Please do not question my decision to reverting to Islam. I know I did the right thing. I felt it. I feel it. And I feel as if I am born new again, the world feels much more calm and peaceful since the moment I said the “Shahada” which is “La ilaha illa Allah wa-Muhammad rasul Allah.
There is no god but God and Muhammad is the prophet of God.”
Also, is it fine if as a Muslim teenager, I can continue wearing tight jeans and shirts but also wear head covering? Like not the burka, but completely cover my hair, face open and wear jeans? Like the Muslim females in this picture:
MuslimWomen
I am pretty ordinary in most other ways, except I’m 35, have never had a boyfriend or sex, and am now beginning to question my identity.
‘That’s a bit late’ you might say, and I would agree, but I have been concentrating on my career thus far. I have recently been looking to get more of a life (I never really had that much fun at uni either – was too shy to go out much, and couldn’t afford it anyway!) cos I’m almost middle aged and don’t want to spend my future alone. I think I’d be a great mum too one day, but I won’t let myself think too much about that at the moment, because I really can’t see it happening.
I have joined a dating site, cos I don’t really like clubs and stuff, but I am getting nowhere. I think I am quite attractive. I have a pretty face, lovely teeth, a lovely warm personality, and yes, I’m curvy, but i am comfortable in my own skin. I don’t wear dresses or skirts, am not particularly feminine, and I have short hair. No men are biting. It’s really frustrating!
I spoke to an old friend from school who is a lesbian, and she said when she came out to her mum, her mum assumed she and I were an item and she herself was never quite sure if I was a les too. One of my old uni mates said she thought I was a lesbian at uni too, because I never really dated or went out much at uni. A work colleague told me that when I joined the firm, everyone assumed I was not straight, and she herself thinks I am being dishonest with myself, and I will have a lesbian epiphany at some point!
So it seems the only person to not really consider myself a lesbian (until I question it now) is me! How will I know if I am or not? I have never had sex with another person, lesbian or straight. I don’t have fantasies about other women, and I do ‘phwoar’ about particularly well toned men (and Declan Donnelly – what a cutie!), but, for goodness sake, I am getting on now and feel if I am going to continue to be happy, I need another person to make me feel whole – for cuddles, hair stroking, laughs and nice times together.
The other day, my old school mate told me she had thought about me in ‘that’ way, and I found it quite flattering to be thought about in a loving way by another, (especially since no men seem to be interested online), so does that mean I am a latent lesbian?
I don’t want to ‘go back unopened’ as it were, but I want to be opened in the way that is right for me with the right person. My crushes when I was a teen were always on men (Morten Harket, Philip Schofield!?! etc), and I kissed Morten’s pic nightly before bed, so i am finding it hard to come to terms with the idea that I might not be straight. Or maybe I am, and just need to stuff the shyness and get out there and have some fun!
I do fantasise about being subservient to someone in the bedroom, and in these dreams, the other alternates from being male to female and back again. It seems that the gender of the other in these fantasies does not matter, but the feeling I have of serving them is the bit I enjoy. I am a naturally helpful person, in quite a caring profession, so maybe these dreams are just an extension of that in a sexual context, but I don’t know. Do straight people and lesbians dream of being submissive, or is it mainly one or the other?
I really don’t know. Your reflections please (but please be sensitive because this is really quite a challenging time for me!). Thanks.
I don’t drink so I don’t do the bar scene….I am a christian and go to church but there aren’t many singles there…..where would you suggest the best place is to meet single CHRISTIAN men besides an online dating service?
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