First of all, I love my husband! We have been together for almost 5 years (off and on) and have been married for 6 months. During the 5 years we have been through much, from infidelity ( not on my part) and a lot of dishonesty. Together we have worked through much, or so I believed. I lost two children in a car accident, which he really never addresses and throws his going to their grave in my face. And then there are the finances, which his money is his, my money is ours.
Two years ago, I ended my relationship with his mother because I didn’t feel she was being honest with me and created her own version of situations, with her own spin once I ended our relationship! It’s not true, but as she almost destroyed her own relationship with her son, and they do not talk now, she had to put everything thing on me in an attempt to save her relationship with her son. She claims to be a devout Christian, but she is the most evil woman I know.
Last night, my husband brought up that whole situation again. It’s been two years and I truly don’t wish to discuss his mother! He had heard my side of the story so many times and honestly it is hurtful to me. I question why he keeps bringing it up, but I am to NEVER bring up his mistakes wherein he hurt me terribly!
There are times I find that my husband lies to me about stupid stuff. So I had him tracked by a private when I was out of town on business. He told me he was home but was tracke to his job. Why lie? I don’t care if he goes to work on a Saturday. Other than I’m told he is making calls from work and on the internet talking to women. (He met alot of women online before we met and cheated with some while we were dating). I am concerned. But my husband denies things even knowing he is caught. Then, he thinks he has a right to bring up the past like its acceptable.
Any suggestions??? I am at my witt’s end and I really think I need to end my marriage!
My husband left me right after we got married, now he wants me back?
I feel awful, he left me a few months after we got married and a few months after that wants to try again and is promising forever after he told me he wasnt ready and was debating wheather to stay or not since we got back from the honeymoon. is it my fault that i dont want to go back and risk having kids with a man who may leave again? pluss i caught him looking at naked women online a week before he left, he says he may be obsessed and has been hiding it since we started dating. please help I am a christian women, i know i need to pray and God will help me but has anyone gone through similar?
I am writing because I am so confused on how to deal with my inlaws and more importantly, my sister in law, and I need help on how to deal with this.
My sister in law was married for 5 years this past May when her husband came in a said he wanted a divorce, no counseling, nothing, he was leaving, taking the big screen, and gone. He would come over in the morning while she was at work and take their child to day care, he would mow the grass. A week later we found out he had been having an affair. In the mean time, he is still coming over and sleeping with my sister in law. My mother and father in law, immediately get a lawyer, and it finally took about 6 months for a separation to be drawn up, and they signed their papers.
In the mean time, my soon to be ex brother in law, has not cut the grass like he promised, and has been caught going through my sister in laws financial documents and her house in general. She makes excuses at why we tell her not to let him in her house, but she continues to say that she needs the help for her daughter in the am since she has to be at work at 6 45, and daycare doesnt open until 7.
Anyways, alittle history about this man: he is 30, this is his second marriage- apparently his 1st wife cheated…. not sure I buy this: his has been discharged from the military-not sure why or his status: his was sexually molested by his father as a child, no counseling: he has openly cheated on my sister in law, not sure how many times: his general demeanor is rude: hes rude to my family on many many occasions: and during my wedding, all the girls went to get their hair and make up done and he was ticked off because she was gone all day and she couldnt go sight see with him, so she owed him a “sexual favor”- if you get my drift…
This past month he told her she needed to get on with her life. She needed to go online to a dating site and meet someone. She did! A NICE man with a big family a little girl the same age, he owned his own business, and she actually spent the night with him. We were ecstatistc!!!!! Then their grandfather died, a huge emotional stress. The soon to be ex, came back in telling her she was moving too fast, he wanted to work things out, he broke it off with the ex girlfriend. All of this within a few days and she took him back.
In the mean time we have supported her financially to get away from this guy, we have gone above and beyond doing everything in our power to help her see the light. But now the kicker- hes seen God. Satan had been in his heart.
Its like hes brainwashed her. Its like shes in a cult! I mean its so convenient to use God as an excuse! I think its Devil making them think its God… I mean I dont understand this.
My husband and I said we wouldnt ostracize her or her child (with him), but at this time, we are so sickened and unable to deal with the heartache anymore. Its unfair to us. Weve spent so many nights unable to sleep, and watch their parents cry, and worry, and weep. Its sickening. I feel bad for removing her from my life, however, I am unable to take the physical effects this is having on my own body. Really, I am. I cant sleep, and I also suffer from anxiety- the type when your hearts beating so fast, and you dare someone to speak out of line to you in that moment like your going to fly off the deep end.
My husband, who is a counselor for drug abusers, wrote her the nicest letter, that took him 4 hours to write, and said the things we will or will not do, and that was we will not support her.
I can feel that my husband and I could have strong disagreements and harm our own marriage because of this, so we are choosing to go on with our lives without her, and if so, our niece, because we refuse to allow this man who has treated us with the utmost disrespect to be in our presence. I dont even care about the disrespect he has caused her, but he will not talk to me or my husband in inapproriate ways.
I come from a family where you mess with me, my dad is coming after you. Their family keeps taking the disrespect of slamming doors in his mothers face, and then welcomes him the following weekend to their dinner table. It is the christian thing for them to do, and thats what they want.
Can anyone give me advice on this issue. I feel so stuck.
After two years of marriage, I have realized that my husband is gay. He only slept with me 3 times to have a baby, and before or after that no sex. I have caught him searching gay online dating, and found out he had male sexual partners in the past.
I can’t file for divorce, because my residency is on the line, I have to wait for another 4 years to sort out my residency. In the meantime, as he lied to me about his sexuality, and ignored me all the way through, do you think it’s a wise idea to find a partner for myself outside marriage, or shall I wait for another 4 years, to have my residency sorted, which means that I’ll grow older and feel miserable for another 4 years?
have my husband with 2 sons, but I feel unhappiness because I found I was in fact a lesbian after I lived with my husband for 4 years . To find my true love, I join one great lesbian dating club http://www.ldate.com/i/lesbianclub and incredible that I found my soul mate about one month later. She also love me very much. We had a great online chat and I could not wait to have a chat with her face to face. After having a face to face chat with her, she said she could not live without me, she wanted me to marry her asap. I also would like to marry her, but should I desert my husband and two sons? Please tell me how to deal with the problem, I am really in a bad mood and do not know how to do.
I have my husband with 2 sons, but I feel unhappiness because I found I was in fact a lesbian after I lived with my husband for 4 years . To find my true love, I join one great lesbian dating club(http://www.ldate.com/i/b)…… and incredible that I found my soul mate about one month later. She also love me very much. We had a great online chat and I could not wait to have a chat with her face to face. After having a face to face chat with her, she said she could not live without me, she wanted me to marry her asap. I also would like to marry her, but should I desert my husband and two sons? Please tell me how to deal with the problem, I am really in a bad mood and do not know how to do.
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