A while ago I was on EHarmony and I had a series of phone conversations with a girl who I had a good rapport with. I asked her out for coffee and she said yes, but I never heard back. I know this could be coincidence, as this happens all the time in online dating. But I have a feeling I made one fatal blunder, and I wanted to ask some young women if they would end a communication over this:
I am a shy and introverted type of person, and unfortunately in the last couple of years I have made some bad decisions leading to my being socially isolated in the last couple of years. In particular, I stupidly transferred out of a school where I had made friends (not the easiest task for me). When she asked me about my social life, I kind of sputtered and gave an answer about how I missed my friends from the old school, and I think I made it sound like I didn’t get out much. Be honest: if a guy on a dating site gave this type of answer, would you be like, “Yeah, just as I thought, guys on dating sites are losers with no life” or do you think it is more likely that there was no particular reason we lost touch? (Like maybe she decided she didn’t want a relationship at the moment.)
I’m trying to get inside the female mind, help would be appreciated! What would you think?