I met a guy on a well-known paid up dating site. He seems respectable, professional, in his early 40s. He seemed honest and nice and kind, we met up several times during the day for walks, lunch etc. Then, after 4 or 5 dates we shared a nice kiss. 2 weeks later, I suggested I go to his neck of the woods and we have dinner – etc. So, we end up at his – it’s all lovely and we get quite intimate (sorry – gross, I know). THEN, the next day I email him to say thanks for the dinner and he replies, signs his name and then has some completely different name in brackets after that. Turns out this is his ‘real’ name. Should he not have told me this before we ended up at his place? It’s not as though it was a one night stand! I’m a bit freaked out, truthfully, am I over reacting? How come he has to see me naked before I get to hear his real name?