6 months ago, my mother discovered that I’m a lesbian, and that I’m dating my best friend. When she found that out, she decided that we were going to move far away to a whole different state and that I wouldn’t talk to my friend ever again, much less hangout with her. She became angry, upset, and depressed. It was constant crying, yelling, and lecturing. Such as, “You must change, and be normal. Gays don’t have a worthwhile life. What will everybody say? ect.”
There has also been times when she wanted to hit me, but she pulls back and squeezes my arms tightly, and pushes me away. The thing is, that it’s been 6 months, and even though things have cooled down, she still has her breakdowns everytime I get online to chat with my friends, or when I don’t do my chores immediately. She just assumes that I still talk to my girlfriend, (even though she is right about that) I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve suggested therapy, and she tells me to stop making fun of her. Just last night, I told her, “Mom I’m stupid, I don’t know what to do or say.” and she says, “did you just call me stupid?” I’ll talk to her, try to chill her down, but whenever I say anything negative, that’s the first thing she’ll perk her head up to. Many people have said that I should stand up for myself, and let her accept, but that doesn’t work. For her, this is very real. She cries so hard, that I don’t even want to hug her. Her whole body shakes, she bites so hard that I can hear her teeth grinding. She makes fists with her little hands, and when she looks at me, she marks an X on her heart. She claims that she’s been dieing, and that she’s going to die if I don’t stop being a lesbian.She blames me for everything, and even though my father’s on my side, he’s starting to look at me like it’s my fault as well. I don’t want to make promises I can’t keep, but just the same, I don’t want my mom to die. I’m not old enough to leave the house, and I don’t want to leave my girlfriend. I just don’t know what to do. Maybe I should pretend to be someone else to my mom, like the perfect little girl, yet that doesn’t seem fair to me. I just don’t want to lose the three people who mean the most to me, my girlfriend, my mom, and my dad.
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I’m at my wits end and right now I can’t stop crying. I love my boyfriend, he’s the only guy I’ve ever dated that I loved and he says that same in terms of me. We’ve been together almost three years but his past drives me insane. He was very self conscious at 14 and basically dated anyone, he met one girl online that he met at a mall (she’s a year older than him) who is honestly one of the ugliest girls I’ve ever seen in my life, she’s a total ***** too, and he says even then he found her ugly and annoying but went with whatever he could get. She forced him into sex, becuase she had been since she was 13 or something and I’m just disgusted he could ever have sex with her when she was so ugly and he had no feelings for her. Sex was also about 20 seconds with most of their clothes on, but I’m still mad he was so dumb. Namely becuase last year after not talking to him for 7 years, she decides to start trying to talk to him and flirt with him and has then been stalking us for the past two years almost. She’s so messed up its unbelievable, she’s a “lesbian” now but she’s obsessed with him! i don’t get it he didn’t treat her good, never called her pretty, and she always paid for him and they only dated around 4 months! She dated a guy after him for three years! She is so obsessive, she has shown up harrassing my friend at work about me, she used to drive by where I work all the time to see me, and now worst of all she is trying to go to the same cosmetology school as me (which I am 18 she’s 22 and did some Remington crap so why would she get into this now?). I switched schools, but I’m so upset right now. I’m just so sick of her following me and being so obsessive, I’m so mad at my boyfriend for being so unbelievably dumb back then I’m ready to break up! It just makes me sick he was with this girl, I worry he actually found her attractive or cared about her even though he says no. Please help, please anyone, I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. Call me immature or dumb I don’t care I just want some advice so bad! http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=140640717&albumID=0&imageID=9965042 Anyone with personal experiences with online dating sites please respond. What are the do’s and dont’s. Has anyone here had a successful relationship from meeting online? With a busy life and so little freetime is this the only way to meet someone? I’m sick of bars and social clubs. What is the key to meeting someone right in this day and age of technology and the fact everyones so damn busy? I almost think being gay would be easier but I am so not attracted to the male body so thats out. Just frustrated with how times are changing and how little people get to interact with one another face to face. I live/rent on a lake and have a ski boat so I get to meet people on the weekends but all I run across is married people or girls who are just way too young, it sucks. I guess I need a new outlet and I dont know what to do. I am done with friends setting me up, it has not worked out so good, I guess I’m too picky but thats me. Lonely and looking in Eau Claire, WI.Help! Ok, please just read my story… I am 24 year old male and an over the road truck driver. I have been driving for 6 months now. I love my job and couldn’t see myself doing anything else, but I have a problem finding women to date and start an honest relationship. I am not really into the bar or club scene, I’m religious but I don’t go to church (Christian), and I have tried the online dating thing (eHarmony, match.com, and Yahoo! Personals) and I still haven’t found anyone. Is there any other sites or things I can try to meet good women who want a serious relationship? |
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