well… hm i have a question a very hard one.. i met this guy 9 months ago on the paramore chat site. i wasnt even looking for anyone just chatting to a few people about teh band cause i love the band! and then i found out he was french and 18 and he was into all the bands i was into and he was really sweet im australian btw. but i had a boyfriend at the time. i would come home jump online and tell him everything about my day and about my life. and i told him about some things that arose in my mind about my 3 week boyf and how he didnt bother to pay for the first date etc and the french would say he was a jerk and how i derserve better but at that time we didnt have feeligns for eachother then he started to tell me about how he liked this girl at his school and told me all about her and i listened and gave him feedback told him to ask her out etc and then so he did they went out for a week i think lol but weird thing is we both broke up with our boyfriend/girlfriend on the same day! and we laughed about it together and there was this whole big argument with me and my mum and my ex and he calmed me down and helped me basically was there through like everything lol. i saw pictures of him too on myspace he is really cute and then one day we were talking and he confessed he had feelings for me i cant rememeber if i had feelings for him before he told me but i was like against long distance relationships and i knew of the dangers with internet and how you cant trust someone. but because i had seen pictures and talked to his friends online it felt ligit and he was a christian as well as me so i kinda think maybe God planned us to meet. then i said i liked him too. and then he was kinda taken aback by that and was surprised but happy and then we continued on talking just we ended it off with cute things etc and he was and still is my best friend  i tell him everything and what i go through he listens to my problems and basically says he would do everything to make me happy. I listen to him too he has some problems with his dad cause his dad is a alchoholic his parents are divorced the same as mine and we relate to a lot. And he told me he loved me a few months ago now me.. ive never been in love before but i have never felt this way about anyone before.its just confusing sometimes and hard because he lives so far away.And i have seen him on webcam in vice versa and i have like a commitment problem like i dont go from one guy to the next im just scared of falling in love i guess lol. cause my parents are divorced i have never seen a happy ending. And then i felt so scared but happy at the same time and then said i loved him too it was like being in some surreal dream. and then he was like ” wow serious? i mean wats happening? and im like huh? and hes liek are you for real do u actualy mean it/ and im like i wouldnt say it i didnt mean it. and hes like ohmygosh all my dreams are coming true. and then yeah so you get the point then we continued to talk etc but it kinda went down from there he keeps talking about marriage etc wen we havent even met yet! hes going to visit me next year after i turn 17 but anyways he was saying i love you … and talked about marriage and working in missionary wen i leave school i mean HOLD UP! i was getting seriously sick in the stomach and i told him that i was unsure and hes like well its what i want for my life and stuf then we kinda just stopped talking a bit and he told me he felt like a jerk later and that he still loved me and wanted to be with me. i am just unsure about the future and what it has planned i mean what if hes not the one? i feel he is though in my heart. life is so confusing. the whole day i was upset before he had told me the whole thing about the future i want to become a author not a missionary i just dont want our relationship to end because of our future plans.My friends are happy for me but they just say whatever happens happens.. but i really cant stand the thought of him with another girl. it makes me cry to think about that actually. its like some weird sick twisted fate. i dont think ill ever be able to find someone as good as him. we are still going along together btw i told him to take it slower and to just see what happens. he is going to university in usa soon i will miss him heaps  and im going to vietnam for a month. theres a part of me that is unsure a part saying give up now and look at all the time you have wasted and i am preparing myself and trying to guard my heart for the future heartbreak but im not sure if it will be enough. even if i locked it away in a cage it would still ache. what do you think?
My wife seldom hit me, but her abuse was nonstop and vicious. She has used her tongue and mind to harm my life in ways an enemy wouldnt even stoop to doing. I have repeatedly demonstrated that I loved this woman more than any man could love, and she used my kind heart, dedication and love to hurt me beyond belief.
To make it clear, I wanted a family so badly, that i married a woman 3000 miles away I met online. I didnt know she was so bad, addicted to Rx drugs, or so very pretty.
1. She called police and said I abused her, after I found out she went to Canada with a rockstar, and a note to another man saying she loved him. Luckily I had entire encounter on tape, and cops didnt arrest me as she asked
2. She filed false divorce documents saying I contributed $3,000, when it was $178,000…She stopped divorce, and we got back together
3. Upon catching her writing other men, she destroyed my computer files containing #1s adultry, so I told her to go home to FL. Weeks later I found out she said I beat her to a doctor and family, making it impossible for me to move in with her.
4. She told me she waned to be a model and singer, then told me she had to write every man on myspace, and put up pix in skimpy outfits. As a Christian, this has hurt my soul. For sake of marriage and love, I said ok to keep her happy, even though it seemed sinful to me.
5. She signed my name for a loan to get plastic surgery, taking this 110lb woman with DD boobs, to a FF.
6. I found this out the day of surgery, as I Iearned she was in Mexico getting procedure done. I flew down to help her get thru surgery, then asked her about loan a few days later upon recovery. We had a fight over that and other guys she was writing, Next day in CA, she destroyed my computer again(contained more of her adultry), then yelled boody murder. Cops came, she was bleeding from surgery. she told them to arrest me on violence. They did, then let me go a few day later without saying a word, cause they didnt believe her.
7. A week later, I got another computer and checked her myspace. She turned it into a sexual dating site, filled with love notes and sexual comments. I got a dui at 8 am next morning.
8. I tell her Im going to file forgery charges, she starts being nice, and we make up. I told her I wouldnt check myspace anymore, cause we just fight too much about the things she writes men. We had 3 good months, until she started being strangely mean. I go onto myspace, and see that she was writing blogs about me beating her. My coworkers were on her friends list and could read these lies. She was telling a country music star she adored him and how hot he was in many letters and comments.
9. Though this is not in sequence, thruout marriage she wrote me about 8000 of the most horrible text imaginable. I still have not read 1,154 of them that are stored on my computer. they were so mean and insane, that I couldnt sleep, was hurting my job performance, and sometimes made me drink. I am a recovering alcoholic and was sober for 10 1/2 years until the night of #1.
10. We seem to make up, I continue sending her about 3/4(800) of my paycheck a week to pay for her house and living. In order to do that, I never bought clothes, made sack lunches and never ate out, stopped playing golf and never had fun. The only thing I bought was clothes for her modeling shoots every week, cameras and gear for photography. I had so many money making inventions and ideas, but only contributed to her modeling dream. The only thing I ever asked my distant wife for, was a 5 minute goodmorning and goodnight call, which she hardly ever did, instead I got about 40 crazy mean text while I was at work.
11. When her text became so absurdedly mean, I quickly took off work and flew to Florida. It took me 3 days to get there tho, cause I had trouble finding a flight I could afford. She learned about it, because she broke into my email(as usual), and saw itenarary. She had time to clean up. Strangely tho, on my 3rd day there, laying beside her bed, I found 4 pix with her and the man from #1 kissing. She was wearing a shirt I bought her, and my ring on wrong finger, so we were married. I was so hurt, because she always said she was faithful, just wrote stupid stuff from nievity. I took pix of pix, showing the date, which was 2 days before I left florida. I didnt tell my wife I found pix until I was at airport entrance. We had a great time together, and she wanted me to stay longer. When i told her about pix, she didnt flinch, make a face, show expression at all. I told her i forgave her, and loved her, all with a kiss and a smile. I told her I wanted to move home though. Half way home, I received a text. thinking it was an apology i was happy. No, she said i was a pervert because I looked thru her kids underwear drawer. they were at dads, and I searched house after i found pix.
12. She was still sending me terrible text, and I was crying. couldnt believe this from a woman who cheated, and I
My wife seldom hit me, but her abuse was nonstop and vicious. She has used her tongue and mind to harm my life in ways an enemy wouldnt even stoop to doing. I have repeatedly demonstrated that I loved this woman more than any man could love, and she used my kind heart, dedication and love to hurt me beyond belief.
To make it clear, I wanted a family so badly, that i married a woman 3000 miles away I met online. I didnt know she was so bad, addicted to Rx drugs, or so very pretty.
1. She called police and said I abused her, after I found out she went to Canada with a rockstar, and a note to another man saying she loved him. Luckily I had entire encounter on tape, and cops didnt arrest me as she asked
2. She filed false divorce documents saying I contributed $3,000, when it was $178,000…She stopped divorce, and we got back together
3. Upon catching her writing other men, she destroyed my computer files containing #1s adultry, so I told her to go home to FL. Weeks later I found out she said I beat her to a doctor and family, making it impossible for me to move in with her.
4. She told me she waned to be a model and singer, then told me she had to write every man on myspace, and put up pix in skimpy outfits. As a Christian, this has hurt my soul. For sake of marriage and love, I said ok to keep her happy, even though it seemed sinful to me.
5. She signed my name for a loan to get plastic surgery, taking this 110lb woman with DD boobs, to a FF.
6. I found this out the day of surgery, as I Iearned she was in Mexico getting procedure done. I flew down to help her get thru surgery, then asked her about loan a few days later upon recovery. We had a fight over that and other guys she was writing, Next day in CA, she destroyed my computer again(contained more of her adultry), then yelled boody murder. Cops came, she was bleeding from surgery. she told them to arrest me on violence. They did, then let me go a few day later without saying a word, cause they didnt believe her.
7. A week later, I got another computer and checked her myspace. She turned it into a sexual dating site, filled with love notes and sexual comments. I got a dui at 8 am next morning.
8. I tell her Im going to file forgery charges, she starts being nice, and we make up. I told her I wouldnt check myspace anymore, cause we just fight too much about the things she writes men. We had 3 good months, until she started being strangely mean. I go onto myspace, and see that she was writing blogs about me beating her. My coworkers were on her friends list and could read these lies. She was telling a country music star she adored him and how hot he was in many letters and comments.
9. Though this is not in sequence, thruout marriage she wrote me about 8000 of the most horrible text imaginable. I still have not read 1,154 of them that are stored on my computer. they were so mean and insane, that I couldnt sleep, was hurting my job performance, and sometimes made me drink. I am a recovering alcoholic and was sober for 10 1/2 years until the night of #1.
10. We seem to make up, I continue sending her about 3/4(800) of my paycheck a week to pay for her house and living. In order to do that, I never bought clothes, made sack lunches and never ate out, stopped playing golf and never had fun. The only thing I bought was clothes for her modeling shoots every week, cameras and gear for photography. I had so many money making inventions and ideas, but only contributed to her modeling dream. The only thing I ever asked my distant wife for, was a 5 minute goodmorning and goodnight call, which she hardly ever did, instead I got about 40 crazy mean text while I was at work.
11. When her text became so absurdedly mean, I quickly took off work and flew to Florida. It took me 3 days to get there tho, cause I had trouble finding a flight I could afford. She learned about it, because she broke into my email(as usual), and saw itenarary. She had time to clean up. Strangely tho, on my 3rd day there, laying beside her bed, I found 4 pix with her and the man from #1 kissing. She was wearing a shirt I bought her, and my ring on wrong finger, so we were married. I was so hurt, because she always said she was faithful, just wrote stupid stuff from nievity. I took pix of pix, showing the date, which was 2 days before I left florida. I didnt tell my wife I found pix until I was at airport entrance. We had a great time together, and she wanted me to stay longer. When i told her about pix, she didnt flinch, make a face, show expression at all. I told her i forgave her, and loved her, all with a kiss and a smile. I told her I wanted to move home though. Half way home, I received a text. thinking it was an apology i was happy. No, she said i was a pervert because I looked thru her kids underwear drawer. they were at dads, and I searched house after i found pix.
12. She was still sending me terrible text, and I was crying. couldnt believe this from a woman who cheated, and I
I’m 25, have my own place and steadly working in the gaming industry. Me and my girlfriend who is 22 and christian (which I’m not really into) have been dating for almost 2 years now. The first few months together, we had sex very often with every chance we had when being alone together. Last year, ever since I moved 2 hours (bus ride) away to another city for work, we of course decided to keep a ‘sorta’ long distance relationship. I would come visit like every second weekend. She couldn’t come visit me often because her parents are pretty strict on curfew. Also I don’t want her to drive long hours by herself on the highway and only having to spend a few hours at my place and go back so soon. she’s only visited me once which was last year.
Lately, I’ve been having mixed feelings about our relationship and thinking maybe its not enough sex or something. When I come visit, its hard to have sex because her parents are always home. On average, we do it probably once every 3-4 months when were lucky. Even thought about getting a hotel, but that just gets costly.
She’s very passionate about me and i love and care about her very much. For the last 5-6 months, I’ve been getting a little bored and have to admit, I don’t feel passionate about her anymore. I’ve been looking around at other girls, online dating sites and sorta talking to
old friends and such. Life has always been a bit dry for me because its very male dominate working in the gaming industry and i don’t
have many friends, especially girlfriends. Hitting the online sites is like my only hope, but i end up meeting strange unattractive girls. I understand its very bad of me to look around when I’m still in a relationship.
We’ve had many fights already and always work things
out..but me breaking up with her would leave her extremely heart broken because she truely wants to be with me. I’d love to move back intown so we’d be closer, but finding jobs are tough.
Anyway, I don’t know what to do with my relationship. Is it not enough sex or do I just want to move on? Advice please!!
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