Okay we have been friends since we were born and lately it’s been okay even though I haven’t seen her in a couple of months. I briefly talked to her last night on instant messenger. She said “I miss you” but she never calls me or asks me to do anything. Ever since she’s had this boyfriend. Ugh. I mean he’s such a man whore. You know those guys who have tons of “girls as friends” and flirts with every single one of them and in the past he has dated at least two of them? Yeah.
Anyway what really made me mad in the first place was when we went to this dance at school. We were with him and my friend (this was before she was dating him) and some of his “girl friends”. Everyone there was grinding aka dry humping each other and I felt uncomfortable because I don’t like to dance like that and I think it’s trashy.
So she starts dancing and flirting with him and such. My other friend grinds with him as well. I was kinda mad because I knew my friend liked him so it was sooo annoying. Then this other girl one of his “girl friends” says to my friend “I like him, I’m going to ask him to prom”.
So my friend gets pissed, not majorly but she’s upset. So they start humping each other on the dance floor while I comfort my friend. This other dumb annoying girl was coming up to me all night saying “you’re quiet, you’re quiet” and i was getting upset. I wanted to go home so bad. So I asked my friend, “Can I use your phone I would like to go home.”
She’s now okay with the man whore and wants to stay and hump him as well. So she sighs and says “yeah”. So I call and I’m like “I need to use your phone so I know when they’ll be here etc.”
She says “No, I really want to go and dance so can I please just have it back?”
Although it’s like midnight and I have to see if my sister was going to pick me up. She won’t even stay and ask me what’s wrong even though I comforted her for like an hour. Ugh. Sorry this is long but it still bugs me. So I leave in the dark crying. Lovely.
Anyway he ends up dating one of his “girl friends” and doesn’t go out with my friend. The night after he said, “It was nice dancing with you two” and makes lesbian jokes. Again, lovely. So he basically brushes my friend away after that dance and dates one of his girl friends. Alright so it’s like a month later and she goes out to coffee with him behind his gf’s back. Not too suspicious since they have been online friends for a year. That’s fine. But then he breaks up with this girl. Okay seems normal and then he invites my friend to a Halloween party. They go and he drags her to parties which pisses me off because she shouldn’t be drinking and hanging around the freaks he hangs around. They make out etc. Great. (Note the sarcasm) -__-
The next day she pulls me aside at school and says she’s scared of the things she did with him (won’t mention). I say “Please don’t have sex with him! Pleeease don’t eff up your life” etc. She goes “I know, I’m just scared it will go too far blah blah.”
I warn her and warn her and warn her. Then she tells me “He says he’d like to wait four days before we officially starting dating because I don’t want to hurt her (her being the girl he previously dated) feelings.”
At that point I was like “No, you’re not going to deal with this ******”
She’s like “I knoww….”
Yet here I am and she’s still dating this creep. We didn’t speak for a month because I was still mad at her. I had to apologize like always. I feel awful because I do not know what to do. Lately I have just been ignoring it. I don’t ask her about him etc. Mostly because I never talk to her anymore. She never calls me at all. It feels like if I never called we wouldn’t talk for years! Or ever for that matter…
So I tested it out and haven’t called her in months. She will not call me. Ever. It’s as if her bf is the only thing she cares about now. She’s even considering going to the same college as him which I think is absurd. You should never go to college for some guy or anyone. Never. It’s just irritating that our friendship just disintegrated because of some guy. I don’t call her anymore, I deleted my myspace and facebook. She didn’t even message me on there! Or instant message me. I’m always the one doing it! I don’t know whether to end the friendship or just be okay with how things are…
Help!
Sorry I kinda rambled there!
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
