In A New Relationship, Is It Wrong To Keep A Profile On Match.com?

When you start dating someone and it’s been a couple months, and you have a profile with an online dating site, should you remove it immediately? If you agree to be exclusive (intimately) does that mean yes, remove profile?

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What Is Wrong With Me?

My life has not been that long, but at 17 all my friends had at least 7 girlfriends. I had none. And its not that I am ugly, shy, or else. It is just that my life didn’t work out the way it should have been. I am a pretty smart and cool kid. From the very early times I can remember my teenage life or my ‘kid’ life, I just didn’t meet that many girls. A lot of my friends were dating when they were like 12; and I can clearly remember myself at that age thinking: ” oh yep, my time is still gonna come, i am gonna grow older, bigger, smarter, cuter….girls will just fall for me.” So there i was. I was 14 and a half, still no girlfriend. I lived in Europe (i am not gonna specify the country). Had almost a great life with many friends that i trusted, and still do. However at the age of 15 i had to move to the USA. my life changed dramatically. I learned English, as you can see. Didn’t take me that long as you can see. So i studied, and lived here for two years. I have never been to soph hop, nor snowball, nor prom. I am a senior now. 17 years old. And it begins to concern me a lot. I don’t have as many friends in school that i can really trust. I have no girls that i could talk to every day. Therefore, who am I going to go to the prom, choose a suit, etc if I don’t even know any. I am a guy, with a european-british and a bit australian accent. not very tall, and not very short. I work out daily. I run 3 miles at 4 am every other day. I am really confused. This even brings microscopic tears to my eyes. Tears of regret and misunderstanding. I wish i would have done something different with my life. I am mature. I never ask anyone for help, i do everything on my own. And in school when i see some jerk, that swears every other word, and looks like crap, talking to another, very cute girl; and then driving her home. I just can’t do anything with myself. I simply dont understand. Is it because i dont have a car? Well, I cant have one. I have passed my permit, dont have a license yet, and I study, because future is very important, therefore i dont work, therefore i dont have money for a car. My parents aren’t rich or anything, but sometimes they buy clothes for me, so i am not worried about my looks. Help me out in here. I smell good too. I read mens health magazine ever since i became concerned about my relationship life. I read tips for dating online a lot. I cant seem to do anything to atleast be friends with a girl, not just be her boyfriend. Thanks for all replies, i really appreciate them.

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What Is Wrong With My Computer/internet Connection?

My husband and I are set up on a LAN. His is the host computer and mine the client. For months now I can not seem to load certain sites on the web. We re-established the connection to make sure that the ping was o.k. We checked the firewall. We updated our Norton virus protection and removed all unused and unnecessary programs on the client computer. The host computer surfs the internet fine and can load any page with ease. The client computer is slow and loads some pages and then not others. I.E. : I can go to Yahoo! but not Yahoo!Music. I can go to the main page of MySpace but it will never completely load when trying to log in. I also checked to make sure that I had Java installed and the most recent active x controls. I am at a loss. I have no idea what else to do. There should be no reason why his is working fine and mine not. The connection is perfect and all the software seems to be up to date and working. Please if anyone can help. I start school online and need it working.

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Is This A Weird Or Wrong Question To Ask Someone Through An Online Dating Service?

I’m 28 (male) and have a profile setup with the online dating service – match.com. They have several methods of communication available. One is what’s called a “flirt” (otherwise known as a sort of an ice breaker). Basically, you send one to a person and hope they respond. There are quite a few different flirts available (by category of humor, serious, movies lines, etc.) So, yesterday (Saturday, 11/7) at about 1:30 pm, I found a girl (26 yrs. old) who I was interested in getting in touch with, and decided to send her one of these flirts. The one that I sent her read as, “It seems we have a lot in common. Let me know if you feel the same way”. (I felt we did, so I thought it would be reasonable to send). Long story short, about 35 minutes later she responded with, “Hey there, how’s it going?” I responded with, “Hi there, it’s going great! Are you having a good weekend so far?” Was this nosey, weird or perhaps just the wrong thing to say to someone you don’t know? I thought it was being thoughtful, but maybe it didn’t come off as such. Nonetheless, she never responded back and it’s apparently not because she’s busy. I happened to see her profile as being “online” while doing a regular profile search of women in my age range. Just want to know so that I avoid saying this in the future. Thanks!

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What’s Wrong With Me? Shall I Try Online Dating?

so i am still stuck in this already “over” relationship, a year isn’t easy for both of us to get through, well at least for me is like hell. if the fact is this is my 1st serious bf and 1st love in 25 years probably you will understand more.
however, i have a lot of difficulties to get over, and i feel like i am almost going mentally crazy, this is the worst time in my life so far! at work i have to act differently otherwise i may lose my job! and in front of friends i can’t really talk to them about this anymore, since they are already tired of it, i know i’ve been quite annoying, even though they are my very close friends, when i heard they say”i’ve told u many times, i don’t know what else to tell u anymore”, i do know if i keep bothering them with the same question i will end up losing them!
i feel friendless, hopeless, and stupid. yes weird i know, no one would ever believe a person like me would feel in this way, we all have 2 faces don’t we? we can just look like one person and inside be another one. this is another reason why it’s hard for me to move on, right now there is no other way to help me get over, get disattracted from thinking about ex, but there is no one around me right now.
there are 2 male friends that i know of, i know they only want physical relationship as well, well kind of. we all know the same group of people, so i dont really wanna get involved in this, besides i don’t need physical, i can’t. still in love with ex.
events, join sports group, etc…tried but didn’t work out well, i get bored easily with things that i am not very interested in, i do like events, but not all of them. don’t know what’s wrong with me, sometimes i can be very sociable, sometimes i just don’t wanna talk to anyone at an event. i am also a bit afraid to tell everything to friends, dont wanna leave them impression that i am strange.
so i need help, during this special period of my life, online dating sounds a bit embarrassing, none of my friends has done that, and i am a bit worried if i say i just want to meet new people to get over this horrible time in my life then no one would wanna do this. also there are a few professional dating events in my city which need to be paid, my friends would never try that, he said he will never pay to get a date. i need to meet new people, in any legal and not embarrassing way, as soon as possible.
thoughts please!

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Online Dating? Whats Wrong?

I have tried a couple good free online dating sites. I put up pics and stuff. I give it about 2 days. I check it daily. Nothing. I search and see local nice girls but im too scared to send them messages. After 2 days i get discouraged and delete my profile. Im 5’6 and most girls like Tall guys so that makes my choices harder. Any advice?

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Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Hi. I am a 14 year old boy. I don’t know where I’m going in life, either. I live in a town where people don’t realize the significance of life as I have opened my mind to see. I am not a selfish man at all. For years I’ve put others before myself and the ONLY thing I do for myself pretty much is masturbate. I have a masturbation problem. Well, not a problem. I know it’s not bad but I masturbate all the time. I question a lot about my life. Even right now I’m masturbating. Recently, I was talking to my friend on MySpace. Out of being too horny, I told her I was masturbating and said multiple things like “I’d *** on your face”. But afterwards, I felt horrible. I didn’t want to speak to her and still refuse to speak to her today. I have blocked all communication from her. I know it’s not her fault, but she’s not pretty and I don’t like her so I don’t know why I said it.
Moving along, I haven’t had a girlfriend in 6 years.My last girlfriend was Jacqui Gillardi and I love her still today. We had a perfect relationship and she even kissed me on the cheek. Then I heard she was moving to Tennessee and when seeking comfort, my friend Jillian asked me out. I said yes, unaware that Jacqui wasn’t moving until the day after… the last time I spoke to her was that same day and she was ripping up pages in her book with my name on them. I broke up with Jillian that same day as well. I’m not the best looking guy and most of the people at my school are snobs or have boyfriends. I don’t know what to do… I’m very romantic, very charming, and… I just want to make someone happy. Make it feel like I’ve changed someone’s life and that I can be their hero. I can be the person they feel protected at. I can be nice, sweet, romantic, charming, and even sexual because I know they like the naughtyness a bit hehe. But is something wrong with me? I haven’t even had my first kiss yet. I can be funny, but I also see the value in life. I’m still a virgin, and I want my first time to be when I’m married and I want that person to be a virgin too… commitment is a key thing I look for… I want someone beautiful too, because I mean, I know looks aren’t everything, but there IS a limit as to what people define as “looks”. I tried asking someone if they just wanted to hang out, go mini-golfing then to a movie, but they all say no, even when I offer to pay for everything. Am I just repulsive? People say “Just wait, you’re in the 8th grade going on 9th, you’ll find someone.” and I keep saying “I’ve waited 6 long years of pain and torture! Ever since that day my life has been going downhill, slowly enlarging the scar on my life! I know I have my entire life, but what about now?! Is there nothing that can heal the wound on my life if not completely shield it from more disease?”
I can be very sexual, actually… I go to many porn sites to masturbate. It’s the only way I have to get to sleep at night and to relieve stress. I’m not a strong person and I’m a little chubby, not overweight like most of America :P . I online dated on Star Wars Galaxies for a few years and they all loved me, so why can’t I get a real one?? What do girls want me to act like? I try being myself but no one likes me for that. I am very philisophical and for some reason people don’t like that.
I like the feel of masturbating. It feels nice rubbing my hand up and down *******. But I don’t like being alone. I think I may be bi-curious because I often think, like right now, of being with my friend and us masturbating together. I think it’s like a mirror-effect to me more than being bi-curious but I’m not sure. Where am I going in life? I am so confused, I just want love in my life.
Ok, I’m getting more horny as I masturbate so I want to talk about it a little more to satisfy my urges :P
I remember years ago as a little kid I would go to my friend Macy’s house and hang out with her and her little sister Star. I would make ******* make a bump in my pants and they usually laughed because I guess it was funny at the time. But then I would show it to Star and she would show me her *****. We’d even pull down our pants and put a blanket over ourselves and sit down in the closet for no good reason. We were caught once but that’s all behind us. I barely see her anymore, due to school and such. I see Macy because she’s in my grade but still.
I like masturbating to Star Wars porn pictures, other cartoon porn pictures, lesbian, anime, and hentai.
So do I have a problem?

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