I am a professional going to grad school part time, and with a home, doesn’t leave a ton of free time until I’m done with school in a year. Tried online dating for nearly 3 years but every woman I have met is not right for me at all. What is the easiest/best way to meet a quality woman, one with a good heart, values, etc? One would think that a single, educated, professional male that is looking for a wife wouldn’t have such a difficult time! Just want to find a decent woman to love!
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Well, first off, you might want to change your objective. See, if your objective is to meet, fall in love with, and marry a woman with the least possible time/energy expended, you’re almost doomed to failure.
Revise your objective. Set out to meet and get to know as many available women as possible. No pressure, no “okay, we’ve been at this for an hour, where is it going?” Just get to know them.
Let’s say you’re on a date with Woman A, and after an evening, you can tell she’s probably not the answer to your prayers – still, one of her friends / sisters/ cousins/ coworkers might be. So what about just setting out to befriend Woman A, knowing that if you are friends, you will likely meet her friends/ sisters/ cousins/ etc.?
In other words, worry more about making friends and less about dating. Okay, counter-intuitive, unless you realize that the more people you know who like you, the more people you will meet, and one of them is probably going to be The One, but how can you tell unless you meet her?
Okay, you’re busy – but you have interests, personal and professional, right? Contacts are important in both arenas. So get out there and participate in professional groups, in hobby groups (if your hobby is, say, bike riding, on your days off, join a bike riding group). Doing this will be beneficial to your career, and to your sanity (all work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy and leads to heart attacks).
The more women you get to know, the better you will know what it is, exactly, you’re looking for, so you’ll recognize it when you meet it. You’ll also get to know people who will introduce you to other people, including Her.
As for all of this being “easy,” well, since when is anything really important easy? In the meantime, you’ll have fun, you’ll meet people, you’ll lower your stress, and make yourself more attractive so that when you meet her, she’s likely to be just as interested in you.
The fact that you don’t have a ton of time indicates why you may be having a difficult time finding the right woman. I would suggest you concentrate your efforts on your grad school. After completion and your time is freed up a little, take more time doing the things you really enjoy doing. Any kind of hobbies or skills that really appeal to you. Chances are that you’ll find a compatable mate doing the exact same thing that you enjoy. There’s nothing more satisfying than being able to share a treasured activity or activities with someone you love. Good luck to you.
MYSPACE!!!! just make a simple message that says “you look really interesting” and some other bullshit…..copy & paste it to every girl within 20 miles of you. That should keep you busy for months.
good luck
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I may be biased, but have you tried eHarmony? The process takes a bit longer, but pinpoints quality, compatible people for you based on 29 Dimensions of Compatibility–these include not only personality compatibilities but also shared values. The compatibility questionnaire is very in-depth that you take in the beginning (and you can do that for free and see your matches to see if it’s for you first), but the people who take the time to take it are serious about finding other like-minded people like yourself. It’s just one option, but it might be just what you’re looking for. And if you decide it’s not for you, no biggie.
http://advice.eharmony.com
On a side note, I feel I must disclose that I am the Advice Editor for eHarmony, and no matter what you decide is the right method for you to meet quality people, you might also find helpful dating, relationship and self-improvement advice on my site
Good luck on your search!
I realize that some marriage vows say ‘man and wife’ but mine did not. It said Husband and wife. This isn’t the 50′s where women were told the only thing they were good for was marrying a good man that would take care of them. Love was optional. So in my clinical opinion you aren’t ready for love or marriage because you have filled your dance card with school and ‘don’t have time’ til I am done with school. Stop looking. You aren’t ready. When you are ready, join a gym, the Y, go to other functions where women go without a drink in their hand. Don’ marry til you are 28, a psychological study revealed men who married prior to 28 ended up divorced. So, skip the first divorce and wait. What is the rush??? You’ll end up finding her at the weirdest place and time. I did.
well, look around and or think, theres church, if not church,you can go to a classy place, where top notch professionals go tohang out, theres lots of ways to meet women all you have to do is step outside
I found my quality in the most unusual of places it happened upon being in an ole truck stop down Alabama way, she was sillouetted in the smokey light breaking a pool cue over some rednecks back , as we glanced to each other we knew something happened and I spent the night at her trailer and Ive been there ever since and that was fourteen children ago. we had to adopt those kids cuz I found out after the first few minutes with her that she was a man.
Find a nice professional woman at the Bunny Ranch in Las Vegas. They’r very nice too!
All I can wish you is good luck. Maybe try volunteering if you have the time if not try your church. If you do not have a church you attend find one. It is not easy meeting the woman/man of your dreams. Write down what you are looking for in a mate and put it in the Bible, then let go and let GOD.
Ask friends about their friends. I’ve tried online dating too and the problem with that is it is so RANDOM. It’s very hard to find someone that you feel connected to and that you have lots in common with.
Just get to know your friends’ friends however you can.
what are your hobbies and interests? join a club or group with that interest. I like fitness clubs and book stores, but everyone has their own personal likes.
As for online dating, did you try e-harmony? I’ve heard great things about that site and know 2 couples that met there are are married now.
Let me know if you find out… thought I found one… Church good values.. she just wanted a meal ticket
Darlin’, if you find the magic answer—-PLEASE share it with me!!! I’m divorced and simply looking for companionship with a like gentleman. I’m intelligent, personable, can adapt to any environment, and am not demanding. Yet, I refuse to be “arm-candy” for some old codger and that seems to be where I run into problems! I own my own home, am retired and have lots of friends-males and females-but their taste in what “they” think I need is NOT what I want. I just want someone intelligent to spend time with, to travel with, and share moments with. I guess my point is that despite the difference in our ages, we’re both having the same problem. So, don’t think it’s just happening to you. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Their are a lot of Good women out their. You just have to find the right one that will make you happy . Are you a Good man. Because we are hoping for good men. I have try the on-line dating it not for everyone. I find that the old way is better for me just meet people.( I am looking for love, marry and a family and i don’t see nothing wrong in looking for those thing.)