Hi, I’m a gay Asian male…and it seems impossible to find dates, mainly bc of my ethnicity. Look, I know that we are not considered the ideal, attractive partner, but I really wish a few good guys existed that could look beyond this one feature. Actually, a lot of people have told me that I am “cute” (of course they were probably lying), but still…it’s impossible. Even other Asian guys would never want to date me….they all automatically go for the White guys. Honestly, I’m afraid of ending up one of those lonely old men who never found love in life. The only guys who have ever expressed interest in me are 50 year old desperate men or guys that have some sort of perverted Asian fetish. It’s really depressing sometimes. I even tried online personals, but the vast majority automatically rule me out bc of my ethnicity. Their ethnic preferences are always white or hispanic. I’m thinking I should not be so proactive about dating anymore…just let it happen if it happens?
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Hey guy. Don’t beat yourself up so much. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places. There are people out there for everyone. You will see that the Abercrombie types tend to be attracted to the Abercrombie types. The bears are usually with other bears. If people told you that you are cute, you probably are. I know you have a lot to offer and the right guy will come along. Just remember the attraction has to be reciprocal. That’s what makes the dating scene hard some times. But it goes beyond the physical. Find a group where you have common interests and mingle with that group. Someone probably has a ‘friend’ who is gay that you might like. Don’t give up. You need to be more upbeat and not sound so depressing. Life is what you make of it. I am single right now and am actually kind of enjoying the break. Good luck.
That’s a shame. I think if you’re finding that personals and online dating sites are not working because people judge what they want before they’ve seen you, then you need to get out and about and meet more people, in a social way rather than specifically for dating, so they can get to know you as a person, and see past your ethnicity.
It depends where you live, and what your hobbies and interests are, but I hope you can find a way to do that. I’m sure there are plenty of guys who would love to be with you; it’s just a matter of meeting them.
poor baby, you must be in a weird area. asian men are usually sought after. there’s even a whole subculture devoted to dating asian men exclusively (rice queens) i think asian gays are hot, especially if you’re a little bit nerdy, yummy!!!! good luck cutie, just relax and let it happen!
IM me sometime…. kwijiborjt on AIM. We should chat!
While I am approaching 50 (turn 45 this week), I am far from desperate and I have dated a couple of Asian guys.
I don’t have a fetish for any one type (except maybe otters…see previous question), but I see a lot of Asian guys that I think are hot.
Maybe you’re looking in the wrong places.
Ni hui bu hui shuo putonghua? Wo hen xihuan zhongren nan, he wo jianada ren.
because of lesson of moral values they have learnt from their forefathers
this is their pride
if they lose this then for what they will pride.
I hate to say this but I agree with you. I’ve seen gay men clearly stating their races of preference in personal ads but I haven’t come across gay women who do the same. Perhaps the ones whom you are looking for are not exactly in it for the life partner deal?
I am sorry that you are having a hard time. I can emphasize but nowadays, I try not to let it get to me.
Just focus on your good points. People tend to automatically to you then.
P.S
Never ever go to New Zealand if you are wanting to find “LOVE”
Australia is mildly better but there is not significant improvement.
Oh and you know those really hot people who say “No Asians”, once they get older and uglier they tend to go for Asians… Asians won’t have them then. They are just jerks, and they will get what they deserve once they go over their prime years. (Karma)
Dude shut up. You Asians are so desperate and passive-aggressive with these posts. You’re the one with the white fetish. Admit it. It grosses us out and we know for a fact how most gay Asians are when it comes to white guys. It’s posts like these that add to the statistic. Stop with these post. To be honest, I have a crush on an Asian guy, but this post makes me afraid to date him.
Hmmm I am asian and I have had the same experience. So what would be a better country, region, state where Asians are more accepted? any thoughts?
listen up lool come to me. if no man want you. im a hot girl lol yes for get it THE ONE YOU CANT GET …. im here for you baby what your number ??? wink wink..
ASIAN MEN ARE HOT WHERE YOU LIVE AT ALL PEOPLE WANT SOME RICE AT SOME TIME AND IM ONE OF THOSE . SO LET ME TRY THIS AGAIN COME TO ME FORGET THESE MEN…